I have tried every thing and still I am wrong i give up too easy he says.....short of just leaving and getting rid of the stress thought i would try this. He is over the road all week i work full time but i shouldnt expect them to help out...."what are you going to do when they are gone whos going to do the stuff you want them to do now when they are gone? Just do it your self and dont stress about it... is his answer.. Never mind that the house is clean when i leave and come home to a mess. we have had the discussion over and over and in the end i loose and they get their way.They dont want to help and wont, and he wont make them...or see my point... I could type for hours.... they have no responsibilities...and I should not expect them to do what i want them to do they werent raised that way...
2006-08-03 20:43:50 · 7 answers · asked by imout3x 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"What are you going to do when they are gone, who's going to do the stuff you want them to do now when they are gone?
Answer..When they are gone, there won't be a 10th of the work to do! The mess will follow them, but as long as they live under YOUR roof, they can clean up their own messes. If you leave a clean house when you go to work, it's not unreasonable to expect a clean house when you return (no white glove inspection).
If they don't share the chores now, how are they going to function as adults in a relationship? Leave all the messes for their partners to clean up? It's a growing lesson, a responsibility lesson, not just housekeeping.
2006-08-11 19:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by Betty-Bob Budreau 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person you can change is yourself.
Stop doing everything. If the kids are under 18 years old, do what needs to be done to keep everyone alive, and leave the rest. If they are out of high school, you don't even have to shop or cook for them.
My rule has always been, "He who thinks it is dirty first, cleans it."
Maybe the kids have never lived with a sink that hasn't been cleaned in days, so they don't know why you clean one. If favorite foods are always available, why would the children understand the necessity of shopping? If you never ran out of clean underwear you might not understand what it takes to keep a clean supply on hand.
How did you get yourself into this situation? It sounds like you are being used as a housekeeper.
2006-08-11 12:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by niuadolescent 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is a way to get them to help and him not get mad. I use the whole chart thing and that works for me and mine. You should just try little things that will get them to help out and listen and show them that if they help you you will help them. The whole reward thing with helping works to. You should still talk to him and let him know how you need them to help and they need to act right. try to set something up with him to asgree with you. If they dont do the whole chart thing then they will get in troubl by dad.
2006-08-11 13:37:49 · answer #3 · answered by mldwild 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try and do things for your self so you give your self peice of mindknow you are setting your own rules but just none you'll get in crap for messy up
2006-08-11 11:57:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not expect them to do what you want, if you did not raise them to do so.
2006-08-11 17:38:27 · answer #5 · answered by happymixer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-08-03 21:39:27 · answer #6 · answered by jimrich 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a bit mad
2006-08-11 02:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by juicylucy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋