For a long time, I liked my ex. I never wanted to like him anymore after the break-up. But I can't control my feelings, so I still liked him even when I didn't want to. But after a while, I started to talk to this other guy, and I started to like him a litte. but my best friend has liked him since forever. well, I don't want to like this guy either. So, it's like I'm half and half with my ex and my friends crush. I have no idea of what to do. I think I like the ex more, but then when I think about it, I like the other guy, too. But it's like a weird feeling when I think of them both. Not like a butterfly in stomache feeling either. =/
2006-08-03 20:15:15 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You may be a bit lonely right now. My advice is don't go after anyone until you have more confidence in yourself and decide what you really want.
Also, be careful because if one of them takes the slight bit of interest in you it sounds like that might tip the scales for you and you will go after them which isn't really what love is about.
Take your time and clear your head. If one of them is really interested in you they will wait until you are ready. If it's meant to be it will happen.
2006-08-03 20:21:51 · answer #1 · answered by femalefromuk19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to take a break from both of them and decide just what it is that you truly want. Would be nice if you could find someone that holds qualities that they both have, huh? I think that you are "comfortable" with your ex and that is hard to give up sometimes, yet being with the other guy gives you a thrill because he is wanted by someone else. Take a breather and take some "me" time to really figure out what it is you are doing and then I think you will be able to approach this situation with a clearer head. Good luck!
2006-08-03 20:20:50 · answer #2 · answered by swtz69drmz 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to your ex, let him know how you feel? Shooting from the hip is usually the best approach. And as for the other guy that your best friend likes, steer clear...that's a sure way to create bad blood between you and your best friend. A guy always gets more attractive when another girl has a crush on him. Most of all, have (safe!) fun dating different guys...as long as you're honest with each one. Best of luck!
2006-08-03 20:23:43 · answer #3 · answered by Abbismom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't go with your friends crush! You might lose her as a friend! Just ask if your ex still likes you and go out with him. Good luck!
2006-08-03 20:21:20 · answer #4 · answered by asawyerj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make two lists (one for each) and list the positive and negative attributes of each. This should help you reach a decision. You should also realize that you might lose your friend if you choose "her crush." Is he worth sacrificing a friendship?
2006-08-11 19:21:19 · answer #5 · answered by worldwise1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget both of them if you can't choose from just one of them. Get new guys and you may find out the 3rd one is even better.
2006-08-11 18:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying to meet someone new? Meeting new people is fun and exciting if you are single.Try finding someone else before you stay single too long unless you want to be single. Find someone who makes you happy and not someone who makes you feel weird.
2006-08-03 20:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by Mike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget your ex. If it didn't work the first time it's not going to work the 2nd time.
2006-08-03 20:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by Art The Wise 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well do them both and find out how you really like more.
2006-08-03 20:21:48 · answer #9 · answered by Jerry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so cheap.... like so many guys at once..
2006-08-11 19:50:36 · answer #10 · answered by yiwei_tay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋