Ok today I talked to my ex after not speaking for a couple of weeks. He's about to have a baby with some one eles, but he didn't cheat on me. We were broken up for a while and during that time he was messing with someone eles, and when we decided to hook back up we found out she was pregnant. But this is the kicker, when we talked today, and I asked him how she was doing and how far along she is he was very un interested, and couldn't tell me exactly how far along she was. I don't get it? Then as we were talking I asked him did he miss me, and he said He has thought about me and He has missed me a little. I asked him if we could just try and be friends, and he said not right now. I dont get it?And finally I asked him was he happy, and he just said "I'm cool". What does all this mean? I asked him if he just wanted me to stop calling and he said NO. I told him if he hust wanted to focus on his relationship I would understand, and he said he was focusing on going on vacation
2006-08-03 19:49:52 · 14 answers · asked by Ms. Educated 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry to say it, but to me it sounds like he is not all that interested in rekindling a relationship with you.... however, he is not willing to sever all ties, giving him the option to try and get back with you if becoming a father becomes all too much.... you are giving him an escape route down the track, if he needs it.
You need to seriously ask yourself if that is what you want? No one deserves to have to settle for second best, or being second best. If I were you, I would be trying to move on (no matter how difficult that may be) and allowing yourself the opportunity to be with someone who truly cares for, and wants to be with YOU!
2006-08-03 20:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by spinksy2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. You do not need this guy in your life. You do not know how many other people he was with during your "break".
2. What understanding did you two have after your second break up / What was the reason was it the baby with some1 else?
3.Are you interested in getting back with him. Why? If he doesn't share the same feeling what then.
4. Will your life stand still/not work out if the guy is not in your life
Conclusion.
I think you should focus on you. Only when you truly love yourself, want the best for yourself, respect yourself will other people/men & women alike, respect, love and want the best for you.
Your ex seems like a player.
Food for thought.
How sure are you he was not seeing someone else/cheating while the two of you were dating.
2006-08-03 20:14:21 · answer #2 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's in your best interest to get in the middle of his situation. The last thing he needs is pressure, so you be the bigger person and leave him alone right now. If he wants to deal with you, he'll let you know. In the meanwhile, he'll respect your patience with him over anything. Most importantly, do not be stingy and demand an answer from him. It's not about you right now no matter how much you love him, he has a lot on his plate.
2006-08-03 20:00:08 · answer #3 · answered by Lyttle_Starr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like hes trying to concentrate on being a father more than being a lover.and that's good because every child needs a father.so u just need to back off cause that child isn't`t going any were.it sounds like hes growing up,maybe u need to do the same.move on get it.
2006-08-03 20:05:07 · answer #4 · answered by lovinonly#1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has way too many problems and if you still want to stay friends with him both you, him and her are all just going to have MORE PROBLEMS. How would you feel if you were her and knew this. She and the baby are innocent. Leave him alone.
2006-08-03 19:58:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's trying to "play it cool" but he's scared about being a dad and thinking of taking off.He still likes you but in the end would just use you and hurt you.
2006-08-03 19:55:57 · answer #6 · answered by foxxynatasha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound as though he really cares for neither you or his baby's mama. He's a loser, go out and meet someone new as I fear you are just wasting your time and energy on him. You really need to ask yourself is he really worth it.
-NmD!
2006-08-03 19:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a Playa ...get away from him so you dont hurt anymore you deserve a lot better girl
2006-08-03 20:57:15 · answer #8 · answered by Jenny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This means he is a self-absorbed, selfish, conceited asshole and not worth a second of your time.
2006-08-03 19:54:49 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella's Mommy Expecting #2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but he sounds like an idiot, you are better off forgeting about him..... Good Luck
2006-08-03 19:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋