My mom (step-mom) just called to tell me today at 7pm that they are going to Mexico and they are leaving in the morning ( i had no clue that they were planning a trip)....my dad was just in the hospital and in ICU 2 months ago for a week with a heart arythmia. I was under the impression that they were fly so I was like ok, whatever....but I just found out from my cousin that they are driving! It takes 3 freaking days to get to the town my step-mom is from. I am so upset, I just think that it is just plain stupid to go to a third world country with a heart condition. I guess it makes me angry (scared) cause my bio-mother was murdered when i was 4 and i can't bare to think that something could happen to my dad on this trip, I don't think I could handle it..
2006-08-03 19:31:44 · 11 answers · asked by Jen 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just so you guys know...my dad was already divorced and married to my step-mom when my bio mom was murdered and i am 26. married and have 2 kids of my own (ages 2 and just born a month ago)......i don't party lol
2006-08-03 19:48:24 · update #1
and i am not sure if he got this ok'd from his doctor cause they just told me tonight and they are leaving at 6am and when they called i was under the impression that they were going by plane, i just found out an hour ago that they are driving from my cousin who im'd me.
2006-08-03 19:51:11 · update #2
Hi. let your dad know your fears. Being angry will not help you, It will lead you into self destruction, Which you do not need right now. Besides getting angry is a HUGE waste of energy. So use your energy & time to do something constructive. Once your dad knows how you feel, you will feel much much better, but do not approach him in anger be gentle and listen to him carefully don't do all the talking.
2006-08-03 20:45:44 · answer #1 · answered by Ycul72 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Quite frankly, I can see why you should be angry at your dad. He's got a heart condition, he's going to a different country, it's a 3 day drive and he'll be on the road, what if something happens while he's there? Can he speak fluent Spanish? Does he know where to get help and how to ask for it in case something happens to him? Is he reliant on any medication? From what I can see, your dad seems to be acting very carelessly and you have a right to be angry, but remember, it's his life, not yours, maybe the trip might be good if it helps him relax or something, but knowing the weather down there and the driving conditions I'd advise against your dad's decision.
2006-08-04 02:39:35 · answer #2 · answered by neilgant18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cill Honey not like he had a heart attack... I had this condition for 30 years and drove long hual truck. Basic thing is its when the heart developes an irregular beat and can be controld if it hurts to bad with a nitro pill. If your Dad was smart he asked his Doctor if it was safe for him to go..
2006-08-04 02:46:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you're coming from. But remember, your dad and "mom" went thought a lot with his heart trouble too. Maybe this is something they NEED to do. I'm sure he has checked with his doctor and will be fine. You are very sweet to be so concerned. He is lucky to have you.
2006-08-04 02:37:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just getting angry on someone is not going to help. be cool. your dad is not a kid. he is fully cooperating with your step mom, then you cannot do anything. let them take their own decision. nothing should hurt you because everything is happening as per destiny. forget it and you enjoy your life to the fullest and be of help to others who need you. it is our ultimate goal to keep all around us happy. remove all fears and pray to God, he will look after you.
2006-08-04 02:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by shankari n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is ray, " FROM THIRD WORLD COUNTRY" firstly what do Americas get that big EGO from that you are best COUNTRY in the world.If it was not from stealing other countries neutral resources you would not have the wealth you have.And it your dad's life let him do what he wants to, free will it is a B***H!!
2006-08-04 02:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your dad your fears. I'm pretty sure he'll understand, after all, he, also, was affected by your biological mother's passing. Talk to him about your concerns, and see if he has any ways to make you feel at ease. It's not wrong at all to be angry with him, after all, he's your father, you love him, and you don't want anything to happen to him. But, please talk to him! ^_^
2006-08-04 02:38:38 · answer #7 · answered by WinterRhya 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. But why don't you demand to go with them. Or just stay calm and pretend you are OK with the arrangements.
2006-08-04 02:36:44 · answer #8 · answered by sincerely, see me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are on crack. id be mad at your step mom. it sounds like she is the one influence the decision to go on this trip.
2006-08-04 02:37:39 · answer #9 · answered by agavemike 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Better talk to them clearly about what u think and ask them to cancel the trip.
if they can't then if possible accompany them!
2006-08-04 02:40:09 · answer #10 · answered by Ashish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋