I grew up in a small southern town. I was teased and taunted all through school. I don't want my son to go through the same thing when he starts school. I know that I cannot prevent some teasing, as kids will be kids. But, is there anything I can do to help him to be one of the cooler kids instead of the outcast like I was? If he starts school wearing glasses, will the kids tease him about that? I am not wealthy, but will expensive clothes help? Any ideas will be gladly considered. Thanks
2006-08-03 19:09:10 · 14 answers · asked by daydreamnamy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Remember the times have changed. Help your kid to get mature, be independent, gain confidence the coolness will come automatically. Just be a good mom.
2006-08-03 19:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by ash_m_79 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Encourage him to be himself. Not popular. That's the worst thing I have ever heard. There is a lot to be said for a parent who stands up for her child being unique. I was popular always through school because I was confident. My parents always made me feel good about who i was. Wearing the right cloths is a sham. Don't make your child a clone. Just think of all the other crap he will think he has to do in the future to be "cool". People bond together for all kinds of reasons, but the best friends you will ever meet don't care what kind of clothes or music you listen too, they like you for you. Don't let him watch MTV that is a bunch of Horse crap and has almost destroyed individuality. I'm a young guy saying this, but I know the value of my Independence and love knowing I will never be a follower.
2006-08-04 02:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why worry about popularity? I don't think you should try to get your kid to be popular. Try getting him to be confident and comfortable just being him. I just got out of high school. I was never that popular and I was teased too, but I'm glad I didn't become popular because now I'm going off to college with a future and confidence. I know who I am and I never did anything I truly regret. I look at all of the kids in my school who were considered popular and they are all either pregnant or smoking pot. Now, with that in mind, are you sure you want your kid being influenced by what is "popular" these days?
2006-08-04 02:17:48 · answer #3 · answered by Androgyny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After your entire childhood, you missed the entire lesson you should have learned: you are more then the total value of your personal posessions. Your value is based on how you treat other people and how you act among other people. If your son acts very shy and quiet around others, people will think that he thinks he's too good for everyone else. Teach him to be open with everyone and never be shy.
At the same time, we are all different and no one should change themselves just to be part of the "cool group." Maybe if he tried out for a sports team or started hanging out with different people and just talking to people, he will be popular.
Be sure to keep an eye on who he hangs out with, though. You don't wanna get a late-night call from the police department or something.
2006-08-04 02:17:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No expensive clothes, that's not wise at all. What you're seeking is not something you can buy that way. I would say that learning a martial art can help to develop self-confidence in a boy or young man, along with bringing about respect and a lack of teasing.
2006-08-04 02:33:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to focus on the original purpose of going to school: To get an education. The need for popularity is a distracting cultural perversion. Rather than anticipating problems that he might have, or, trying to smooth a way for him, let him find his own way and be there for him frequently to help him work through social issues as they arise.
2006-08-04 02:22:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teach him good hygiene and to have a sense of humor. There are some things we can't control about ourselves (how we look), but we can make up for it by a.) not giving other kids easy targets (smelling bad), and b.) misdirecting their teasing by amusing them with our own jokes...without making some other poor kid the target, of course.
But most of all, you should want him to be himself, and to be comfortable being who he is. Conforming to someone else's idea of what's cool or popular is a pretty hollow pursuit.
2006-08-04 02:15:51 · answer #7 · answered by Dave C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on what he would want(this is coming from a teen so you know) if he doesnt want to have all of the popularity he doesn't have to. he just needs to be himself to get what friends he wants and if he does turn out to be popular it should be because who they like who he really is not by a mask that he wears to go to school and other places. so i wouldn't do anything i would just let him choose what he wants on his own.
2006-08-04 02:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by bug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what he could do is be the funny guy in the class and people would like him for that. Also try out for sports talk to the people with lots of friends like befriend them or he could also get in a fight and win and people will think he is cool and would like to be his friend
2006-08-04 02:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by Saul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nah...i don't think there's anyway to help your son...im not sure but maybe you can let him invite some people at school to your house...not sure if it'll work
hope everything goes well for your son
2006-08-04 02:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by aNdwenNy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋