are we too young?

Question

im not sure what happened but ive been with my boyfriend for 5 months now,i love him and he loves me.its confusing cause i take the pill each and every day but one night i threw up just after i took it. i didnt take it into concideration and had sex.im now pregnant and scared.were both 16 and im scared im not capable. . .I DONT BELIEVE IN ABORTION!!! he said that we can cope and hes made it clear that he wants to have it.imhappy yet confused and scared.what do i do? please, no upsetting comments.

Answer 1

Yes, you are both too young. True love is not something two people have at the age of sixteen anyway, especially if the relationship has only lasted for five months. If you did end up keeping the baby, chances are, your boyfriend would end up leaving you at some point. I'm sorry if this upset you, but it's just true of most teenage mothers and it's important for you to know that. I agree with you that abortion is wrong, but for your sake, and the baby's, you should really consider adoption. A baby is a blessing, but at this age, you would not have time to focus on your future and your dreams with a baby. All of your life, you have been the only one you've had to care for, but with a baby, you need to put his or her needs before your own. You may be able to finish high school, but it would be hard. 2 hours a sleep a night and no time for homework usually doesn't result in a great grade. A majority of teenage mothers do not go on to college, which would mean you probably wouldn't be able to get the highest-paying job. You would always be struggling to get the money you need to support not only yourself, but your baby, too. In the first two years, babies can cost up to $10,000. Be honest with yourself; this would definately not be the best life you could give to your baby. Even married mothers who aren't in school and have their partner to help them out, feel extremely stressed out. Just think of how draining it would be for you! God bless you and I hope that everything goes well with whatever decision you make.

Answer 2

First of all, it might help if you write down the people in your life that support you. These are the people who will be there for you no matter what. They might not agree with everything you do, but they love you and will always back you up.
Secondly, find someone you can talk to that you trust. Maybe a pastor or youth minister or someone from a crisis pregnancy center. These people have you and you baby's best interest at heart and have seen other young women through this.
Finally, take it from me...it's very important to never feel like your baby was a mistake. The life you have in you is a gift from God and even though it may not have come from the most ideal situation, your baby has been created for a reason and with a purpose.
Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

it's normal to be upset and confused...i, like you, am 16 and just found out i'm pregnant...my boyfriend also wants to have the baby and we're both against abortion too...they say that after 3 months (i think it's 3) you can't have an abortion because the fetus is considered a baby or whatever...but it's alive and has a heart beat at 3 weeks, that's murder...but anyway, you have to tell your parents and the easiest way would probably be to have someone there with you when you told them...you do have the choice of adoption but you'll probably get attached to the baby by the time it's born and won't want to give it up, i would wonder for the rest of my life how my kid is, what he or she looks like, if he or she thinks i didn't want them...too many ''what's'' but if you need someone to talk to e-mail me!! [e-mail]...and remember i'm going through the exact thing you are...

Answer 4

I got pregant when I was fourteen and I as scared too, but I told my mom and you should definently tell yours! You need to make sure that you get to a doctor soon so that you can make sure that the baby is okay. That should be your number one concern now!! Not how mad your parents will be, or how much trouble you will be in, or even what your boyfriend wants, think about what is going to be best for your child.

If you do decide that you are keeping your child then both you and your boyfriend need to go look for jobs so that you can begin getting all the things that you will need and saving money. Babies are very cute, but very expensive. Remember that it will be yours and your boyfriends responsibility to care for, provide for, and raise this child not your parents!!

I did it, and if you and your boyfriend really want to, than I know that you guys can too! But start planning now. Good luck with whatever you decide, I hope that all goes well.

Answer 5

I had 2 at your age. Tell your parents, they will be mad but will get over it fast, they can not make you get rid of it, and 99% of moms will help and come around fast. I won't lie to you it is gonna be hard but you can do, just make sure to keep getting an education so you can suport the baby. Most of all don't stress, the job is done, now is time to be happy after all you are gonna have a little one and your life is gonna change, but it is really worth it. Also you might want to check into the school rules, they may give you a tutor while pregnant and about 6 weeks after to help, they did me. Trust me hun, you will learn fast no matter what age your first baby is something you have to learn how to deal with and you learn fast. Congrats and good luck!!!!

Answer 6

Crystal?

First of all, you'll both had sex illegally, and you'll shouldn't have done it. Just because your on a pill doesn't mean that your completely safe. Also just because you'll love each other doesn't mean that you'll both have to have sex. I am not trying to tell you that your wrong to do it, with hormones and all it's kinda natural, but still if you'll truely love each other then you'll both would have waited. Now to my advice about this.

Well you both will have to live with it. Tell your parents and his, they will be supportive if they really love you. If you both really love each other then you'll both be happy. That's good that you don't believe in abortion, it's just wrong. Just relax, you'll both can still get your education and college, it will just be a little harder than normal. Get routine check-ups and eat healthy. If you drink or smoke, stop it now, if you don't then that's great. Go to the library and get every book you can about pregnancy and read everything you can find out about it. This will help you understand exactly what's going on inside of you and this way when a doctor tries to explain it to you, you will know what their talking about.

I give you my blessing and I hope everything goes well.

Answer 7

Girl,you need to talk to someone.First of all,you are going to need a very strong support system.Second of all, at your age,it takes alot more than just coping.You AND your boyfriend need to finish school.You are also going to have to make ALOT of sacrifices if you decide to have this baby.The BEST thing you can do for your baby is get a GOOD education so you can BOTH get good paying jobs to support this baby.I won't preach to you,because what's done is done,but now you need to step up to the plate and do your best to give your baby a good life.Take parenting classes and look into every program that is offered to teen parents.Good luck.

Answer 8

Consider all your options. Since you're against abortion, you can either keep your baby or let a loving family adopt and raise him. Check out your local resources (including your parents). If you do decide to keep the baby, you will grow up immensely in the next nine months. I became pregnant at 16 and was not ready at all. I kept my baby and she is now 19. It all worked out. Just remember, whatever you choose, put him/her first! Good Luck.

Answer 9

You've already said the upsetting comment.....teenage pregnancy. It's already done and since you don't want to abort it the only thing left is for both of you to tell your parents. Because of your ages they will have to be financially responsible for this child, but the care should rest with the two of you. It's going to be very hard, but if you make up your mind to make this work, you'll be successful.

Sweetheart after this please please if you're on the pill also use a condom....don't be a teenager with a bunch of little ones....it's not fair to them and it's not fair to you.

Answer 10

We are never really "ready" to have kids. I was 17 when I got pregnant...My son is now 5...starts kindergarten in a few weeks...we have good jobs....a new home and we are happy!! It will all work out for the best!! Keep the faith...and congratulations.