at what moment do you realize you've fallen OUT of love?

Question

is there a precise moment, and how or what makes you realize it?

Answer 1

Okay, james j had a great answer.... but to be serious, you don't "fall" in and out of love. You can "fall" into infatuation, but you make a choice to love someone. And even after the infatuation has passed you can still choose to love them. When both people make this choice, to love each other "for better or worse", that is when you experience the deep, enduring, love that everyone envies. You have to decide whether he is worth it, whether the relationship is worth it, and then go with that decision. No looking back.

Answer 2

Well...I realized it when I started taking interest in other people. Falling out of love isn't something that's chosen either...it just happens when people change. There are some instances when two people just need time away to reflect on whether or not they feel the relationship is worth salvaging or if YOU are willing to change for the other person. However, many factors can lead to falling out of love. Mine happened to be control issues, manipulation, and abuse. Other situations of falling out of love can just simply be the fact that both of you have changed or grown up. Remember, humans are adaptable creatures. You shouldn't stay in a relationship because X amount of years have been put into it or because you think you can change the OTHER person. If you two were meant to be...then it will find a way to work out. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 3

I believe you grow out of love, just like you grow into it. It's not a momentary thing. It happens over time. I don't know if there is a specific event or moment you realize it. I know when I got divorced, there were still residual feelings (not necessarily love) for a while. Now, looking back, I know the time frame that it was obvious the relationship was over, but not the exact moment.

Answer 4

Falling in love and out of love both happens with the fastest speed that we are not able to tell when and how at all. There must be things that make that happen whether you are aware of it or not. What i'm sure is that on the day you realize that you are no longer in love with someone, your falling out of love must have happened long time ago. What happened between your falling out and realizing it is your continuous effort to keep it work. It does not matter, for me, when and how it happened. what matters is that it happened. And those involved should let it go and take it easy!

Answer 5

For me love was not a feeling, but a choice. When my ex wife decided to have an affair with a married man, I still loved her and wanted to save my marriage. When she decided to break up this man's family and marriage despite the fact that this man had also been seeing my sister, and another woman, I decided to stop loving her. I made that choice, I didn't fall out.

Answer 6

when you can go 1 day without finding any reason especially the made up excuses to call & cry, or brag about your wonderful new life, or something aweful has happen & you need their help. when you can see any future situation that dosent involve that person an any way you are on your way to a mended heart

Answer 7

Whenever you get your brains work together !

Be patient , it might take times . . .

Especially for you !

But what the heck . . .
You're just a kid anyway !

Wait a bit more and HE will tell you the rest of the story !

Answer 8

If you question whether your still in love , then no, your not in love anymore. I would start to be turned off by them, not want to be around them as much, i mean you just know. It sounds like you know.

Answer 9

I think it is gradual. But then one day you look at them, and realize that you feel nothing. Or you go to tell them you love them, and it just feels really empty. It's sad, isn't it?

Answer 10

You could care less if he or she were with someone else! Really....this is when I left my husband and the feeling of love never returned.