My boy friend has been pressuring me to have sex with him, but i think it's too early and i wanna be married first. i've been with him since April of this year. so he said we can't be together because he claims "a Ni*ga got needs"
i do love him tho'
2006-08-03 18:30:04 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
if he knows that u want to wait till marriage and gives u a stupid line like that, then he doesnt value u. save urself for someone else and dump this guy. he is trying to ruin ur values just to put a notch on his bedpost. dump him and u will find plenty of other guys who will value ur beliefs and respect u and wait till marriage.
2006-08-03 18:34:32 · answer #1 · answered by mayami 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he thinks so little of you so as to put his '***** needs' before your moral stand, you might want to rethink your stand with HIM. I praise you for your stand on your morals and not wanting to have sex outside the bonds of marriage. KUDOS to you!! I am proud of you for this moral stand; it is a rare and virtuous stand you have taken and I sincerely hope and pray you stick to your guns. I did and I am exceedingly happy that I did. I was a virgin bride when I got married at 29 and I know that many people today would consider me a freak of nature, but its not like I didn't have opportunities and offers. I just wanted to keep myself clean until I was in a devoted and committed relationship. I can totally see where you are coming from. And you know what? Sex is NOT the only 'needs' a person has!! There are many other reasons for a person to want a relationship!! Companionship has proven more important to me than sex. ( sure, sex is great and all, but come on....it isn't the ONLY reason tohave a committed and happy relationship with someone!!)
Stand firm in your reasoning. Its what God told us to do in the Bible. He wanted us to go into our marriage with our marriage beds undefiled ( us as virgins, or at least to each other if we have had previous relationships ). If you have free milk...why buy the cow? And too, think of the things you might be avoiding if you DO sustain from it-- unwanted pregnancy where the guy might just go, "oops, Ain't mine, can't prove it. " and walk out.
Anyway, I think you should stand firm. You stick toyour morals and you'll feel better about yourself. And if the fool don't respect that, then don't respect HIM and tellhim to Pack up his sorry act and get gone, even if you do love him. YOU are more important!!
2006-08-04 01:40:59 · answer #2 · answered by heatherlovespansies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let him push you into having sex with him when you are not ready. I believe that you should wait to be married with him but if he cannot respect that then he is not worth it. You will always have your self respect in the end, even if you are without him. Just know that you two may not end up being married even after he has sex with you.
2006-08-04 01:35:31 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Waiting to have sex until your married is a very good choice! If a guy is willing to wait it means he truly cares about you, not only that but you know if you were to get pregnant that you have someone to help you support it. If he doesn't want to stay with you because you won't have sex with him....then maybe you should question whether he truly loves you. If he truly loves you, he will respect your wishes and wait.
2006-08-04 01:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Androgyny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have self respect and itegrity , do not allow him to insist or pressurising you , explain him its a matter of days and first present from your side will be total surrender , but after holy knot . If he agrees , then he really adore you and love you if not ,he is not made for you , just want to enjoy with your body , pl do careful about your reputation and future happy life , watch out your step .
2006-08-04 01:46:09 · answer #5 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in many countries and in many religions like christianity , islam and jewish it is forbidden to have sex before marriage but what can we say as time is changing so quickly no one beleive in religions any more.As an advice may be he does'nt love you thats why he is asking u to have sex before marriage so that he can dumped you so no sex b4 marriage ok.
2006-08-04 02:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Ðøwñ tø Ëã®th 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of COURSE its all right to marry the person before you guys have sex. but in my opinion if all he wants to do with you is have sex for the pleasure then thats not right cuz sex was supposed to be a love so great that you create something out of that love: a child. so think carefully about it.
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2006-08-04 01:34:54 · answer #7 · answered by chubby_bubby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What an a s s. If he actually cared about you, or you're morales then he wouldn't be trying to force you into anything. Tell that "ni*ga" to get out.
2006-08-04 01:33:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep to your guns. Everyone has needs and loads of people wait to have sex until marriage. If he really loves you he'll wait. Don't give in unless YOU are ready to have sex.
2006-08-04 01:34:25 · answer #9 · answered by garfield 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats fuc-ing stupid. You have every right to not want to have sex until marriage. Thats your god given ride, and god given duty.
you owe it to Jesus.
That's stupid, especially with the reasoning "a ni*ga got needs"... what the hell?
At least say something corny like "i think we should express our love in other ways"
2006-08-04 01:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋