What do you expect from your spouse?

Question

Just wondering what men and women expect from their partners. I just want to make sure that I'm not expecting too much from him, and giving too little of myself. Thanks!

Answer 1

well for us we both feel the same about this:
1. respect for each other
2.to listen to each other
3.honesty; very important
4.care deeply for each other
5 no cheating / whats so ever/ none negotiable
6 best Friends
7 both be responsible

Answer 2

I think the key is not to have great expectations, in this way anything you get you value more. We are married 6 years now, and we had our ups and downs, like any other couple. We even thought of divorce, but God helped us to stay together.

I believe the one who really rules a marriage / house is the woman. Not necessarily by sex, but by knowing when to insist and when to give up. Many times you are the winner if you give up first, you'll see.

Freedom - in many ways - is also very important. And spend as much time together as possible. Everything sum up, even if you just sit in the same room, one reading a book and the other watching TV. And do not forget to TALK to each other !

Show him you trust him and you need his advice, may be a hard thing to decide on or just the dress you will be wearing next day. Make him feel you care about him in every possible way, don't ignore him or his opinions, even though they do not fit you very well. Letting him tell you what he thinks it means a lot.

You will be happy... it's just a matter of attitude. Always the one who offers more is actually the one who gets the best at the end of the day !

And one last piece of advice : avoid argueing ! you may say you don't want to look stupid, but trust me it worths !... All the best to you and the others who joined this question.

Answer 3

I expect fresh tortillas made daily, with piping hot coffee, and "Chorizo con Huevos," just the way I like it every morning.

I expect a clean house, clothes folded, and dishes clean, floor mopped, and scrubbed daily.

I expect the little rug rats dressed and fed and sent off to school.

I expect compliments for all the wonderful little things I do every day, like "bringing home the bacon".......

Then at the end of the day, "getting sexed up real good," by "the little woman" and a simple, "Thanks for being you darling!"

But.........That's not even close to what I get, so don't expect too much........(LOL) Good luck!

All BS aside, why not just ask your spouse what he expects AND tell him what your expectations are too!

Answer 4

I expect a partner in life matters, support in troubled times, a shoulder to lean on, a lady in public, and a tramp in the bedroom. I expect advice, and constructive criticism. I expect the world in return for the universe. I expect love and companionship. I can only return as much as I can, and I expect her to accept me for who I am. Not too much to ask is it?

Answer 5

I think if you have to ask this question, you are already expecting too much and giving back too little. Marriage is a partnership. Treat him as you want to be treated and he'll do the same.

Answer 6

I expect him, to live by his marriage vows every day , not just when its convient for him, i expect him to be a real man and to always do what is right , even if it doesnt "feel" good.. i expect him to not only treat me as his wife and mother, but as a "woman" and fufill those needs as well, i expect him to be the best father he can be to our children, i expect him to provide for our family the best that he can, to protect us from all harm, to be faithful, and to look into my eyes 50 years from now with the same look of love on his face that we had on our wedding day..

Answer 7

I want him to give to me exactly what I am giving to him, And that is His Love & Devotion, Friendship, Trust, Honesty, Respect,
I Expect him to treat me with Complete Dignity, I also want him to treat me as an Equal Partner!!

Answer 8

My husband and I have been married for 15 years. I expect him to be loyal and faithfull. A good provider for our family. I expect him to love me and the kids unconditionaly. To pitch in and help out, share his day with me, take care of me when I'm sick, hold me when I cry, listen when I'm angry, make me laugh, kiss me every morning before leaving for work, kiss me everynight before going to bed, fix things around the house and give me sweet little gifts from time to time. I also expect him to sometimes be in a grouchy mood, to make mistakes, to fight with me and not to meet all of my expectations all of the time. I love my husband soooo much! He truly is one of the last good guys left. Take care and I hope you have an amazing evening!

Answer 9

I expect respect, consideration, communication,honesty, and trust. I give those things and get them in return. I'm happily married for 25 years now.

Answer 10

I expect him to love, and respect me the same way I do him. My husband helps out at home when it's needed, and I give him space when he needs it and he gives me space when I need it. It's called compromise, and it needs to be a two way street. Don't expect more from him than you ar willing to give yourself.