We are both in our 50's both out of long marriages. We have been dating for more than a year, but he is always busy working -- I got to retire early. I want to be in a loving relationship, but we see each other only 2 or 3 times a week. I seem to want more of his time than he can give. Should I just call it quits, and find someone with more time?
2006-08-03 18:15:05 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
is he willing to switch his work schedule to better accommodate your needs? how often would you ideally like to see him, keeping in mind that he does work and you don't? it sounds like you will have to compromise because his employment and your retirement seem like the possible breaking point of the relationship. if that's the only thing holding you back, consider repairing that first. if you feel from the heart that he isn't putting in as much effort as you would have liked AFTER you have the conversation with him, then perhaps it is time to move on. i'd also try doing more things with my friends and take time to pamper myself more than worry about how often you see him. this is your retirement, hun so you enjoy it.
2006-08-03 18:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by xxsn0wxxbunnixx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as a dating relationship is concerned, 2-3 times a week is a standard amount when at least one of you has a work schedule. If you're putting such emphasis on the amount you see him, then perhaps you have a problem with the quality of the time together and looking for an excuse to break up.
2006-08-04 02:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by jeninsocal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 or 3 times a week seems like a lot to me for someone who you are dating.
You want to get married? Has the topic come up?
I think you are pushing it and that you'll ruin a good thing if you keep on. You might be doing both of you a favor, though, if you opt out now and find someone who can see you every night.
2006-08-04 01:18:20 · answer #3 · answered by DD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't settle for less time when you want time and he doesn't have it. I am not saying dump the man but get hobbies, go out with other people (harmless stuff) and see if the love is just wanting someone to be there and if you have enough friends than you will have enough to do without settling for less of what you want. Aleast go on a vacation (cruise)(bus tour) before making up your mind and if you still have a love connection remain friends until he is willing to spend time with you.
2006-08-04 01:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by truely human 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If guy really loves a women he is never busy.
He would take all his time just to be with you and see u smile.
Busy means ...I ain't that intrested in u.
The first i love u means..i don't want to hurt u or just don't cry.
Move on and ur on ur 50's you still have beauty with in ur soul don't waste it on some1 u hardly see or not sure he really cares.
Ask him ...Where is this relationship going??
Why are u so busy and you don't have time for me??
To be honest with you, ur a beautiful women and amazing to person in heart yet confused in a situation that don't need no time to be wasted on.
Have fun coz there are plenty of fishs in the sea.
2006-08-04 07:16:37 · answer #5 · answered by *~`h!8@Q 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was me as long as he wasn't cheating on me i could deal with the working all the time i wouldn't want someone that didn't like to make money i would fine something constructive to do when we're not together but your in 50's you are a big girl and can make your own decisions.
2006-08-04 02:51:03 · answer #6 · answered by connie g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him then two or three times a week doesn't really seem so bad. Maybe you could suggest moving in together or spending alternate nights at one another's homes. In other words if you love him then find a solution that works for you both. If you don't love him then move on why waste his time or yours.
2006-08-04 01:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
2 or 3 times a week seems about average for a dating couple, what you seem to want is something more serious than just dating
but in all respects, if you are not getting what you want, why do you stick around?
its like going to burger king and ordering a cheeseburger and being handed a fish sandwich, do you complain and want your cheeseburger or do you just take the fish sandwich and eat it and be content with what you have even though its not what you wanted?
2006-08-04 01:58:25 · answer #8 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u just gave me a recipe to move on. lifes to short to wait . u dont ask him hes already telling you ( u said 2 or 3 times a week ) at 50 daily and sex at least 6 times a week , thats not asking much. but hell why be polite and ask. im sure theres plenty of activity out in the world. get it while u can. sincerely world!
2006-08-04 01:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by gene r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I personally think you should hug on for a while , talk about it and see what will happen , you are in your 50s , think about that, are you just going to be a quitter. I hate quiting , but if you love him , and think he is the one you will grow older with him, give it another try.
2006-08-04 01:24:28 · answer #10 · answered by tangind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋