I'm so afraid he even goes so far to say he will slit my throught. I know I'm dumb for staying but I love him and I need help to leave him I'm so weak when it comes to him I know what I need to do for the sake of our 2month old but for some reason I can't. Thats were I need help I know it would be different if he didn't drink. I know that at one point he might not of loved me but he did care. so thats basicly it if you think you have answer I would greatfully appriceate it and thankyou
2006-08-03 18:01:33 · 7 answers · asked by Young Mother 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
okay, this is from personal experience. im 15 and ive been watching my family get abused for years. my dad says if my mom leaves him, he'll come back and kill my family. WHICH WE ALL LOVEE DEARLY ! trust me he even argued with the police before he was arrested so many times is unbelievable. he even got off with a murder case. he spends way too much money and gets drunk every fcking day. ive been living through this my life and loves it when he leaves. he stopped ever since social workers came over to me and my siblings schools to interview us. its pretty embarassing because my whole school found out. i say you threaten him and record it. he wont kill you at the spot but you can show as proof and you can get a restraining order. you have to do something, just acting like a sitting duck isnt going to help you and especially not the baby. if you are scared yourself, atleast think about the 2MONTH OLD. come on, the best for your child.
2006-08-03 18:09:49 · answer #1 · answered by CRUNCHATIZEMEEE! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey , I personal been abusing not physical but emotional, Man can be manipulative and liars. but what they do most is makes you feel that they care, and let you fall in love deep and deep until you became hopeless and think he is the only one and you have nothing .I have a 3 month old babe too ,alone in Canada no family no anyone. I was just depend on him. I got to the point when he left that he is not coming back, no matter how I loved him Off course I love him but he is not coming back so I have to move on for the sake of my son. If he abused you Phys cal , he may kill you , take his threat seriously, seek help and report to to the authority. If you wait for him to stop drinking, he may not , he may only stop when he kills you or hurt you seriously. Life is too good and you need to enjoy it, I know the feeling and how weak women are we when we love someone or have child with them , we hug on to something ( a babe) I know that once you move on , you will find help and you will be OK. I am OK with my son and I am doing much better emotional and I am happy and strong then ever, so be Strong and move , get out from his abuse.
2006-08-04 01:16:56 · answer #2 · answered by tangind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to sneak out with only the clothes on your back you have to leave him immediately. Find out info on where is the women's shelter and run there for your dear life and your baby's life. He does not love you. He loves his drinks more than anyone. He needs you to stay to take care of him. He is the one who needs you, not the other way around. He can never find another woman who would accept him for the alcoholic that he is. He knows that if you leave he will lose everything. But if you stay you might lose your life. You are not the worthless one, he is. He has an addiction, you don't. He is brainwashing you to think you are nothing without him. Actually he is nothing without you.
2006-08-04 05:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drinking or not, this behavior is unacceptable. You need to get you and your child out of there. Weather or not you love him is besides the point. He will never change his ways, EVER. You will be killed by him if you stay. Try to go to a family member, or to your local battered women's shelter. Get in touch with the police and let them know what he is doing. Don't get a restraining order until you are away from him and in a place where he can't find you. Good luck.
2006-08-04 02:17:53 · answer #4 · answered by That girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you from experience-it will never get better with him. So, if you stay, you risk being beaten to death, and your child is left behind with your murderer or in foster care because there is no one to care for him.
He's spent ages telling you you are worthless and useless without him, he is the only one who will ever love you. Who would want you, you're nothing...sound familiar? You work your butt off trying to make him happy, but you're never sure what is going to trigger the next attack. You're always walking on eggshells. THIS IS NOT LOVE. It is control.
You need to leave...NOW. There are transition homes, battered women's shelters, the police, counsellors, crisis lines. You will continue to feel alone until you reach out and tell someone. Get a restraining order, he needs to stay away from you. If you don't leave, you are teaching your child that violence is the only way to handle issues, and that it's okay for men to treat women like crap.
You can do this, even if you aren't doing it for yourself but for your son.
2006-08-04 01:57:58 · answer #5 · answered by bailey_bun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the police or when ever he leaves call the hotline for advice. i
i need to know where u live or u can look in the phone book for your closest abuse hotline is. Thank you and god bless you hope you and ur baby ar safe.
may god be with you.
2006-08-04 01:11:09 · answer #6 · answered by GothicXRomance13 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just run and never look back.go to your family for help, and also, get some mental help.you have stayed not out of fear but because he makes you feel like you can't leave him , you can't do it without him.
2006-08-04 01:23:33 · answer #7 · answered by retrac_enyaw03 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋