how do u choses betweeen livin with mom or dad?

Answer 1

Don't pic just one. You need them both.

Answer 2

That is a very difficult decison. It's hard to decide, when you love both of your parents. You don't want to hurt either of them. But you need to make the best decison for you. The best enviroment for you. The best schools and opportunities for you. Where do you feel the most comfortable? Have they remarried or are they dating others? How do you feel about their "friends" or new spouses? Are there other children involved? You own siblings, new step siblings? As hard as it is you have been put in this situation. Divorce hurts everyone involved. Do you pray? Make a decision and pray to God about it. He will let you know which choice is right. Have you talked to your parents or grandparents, an adult you can trust about your conflicted feelings? In my divorce my teenage son decided to live with his Dad. He was 14 at the time, my younger children live with their Dad as well now, since the judge wouldn't separate the children. They see me often for visits every other weekend, holidays and during the summer. But it's hard. We all miss each other. My exhusband lives in a different state, five hours away and is remarried to a woman with three kids still at home. Things change...your decision can also change if things don't go the way you planned. Good luck to you. God Bless You.

Answer 3

Two very important issues are finances and understanding. Since Dad is probably the bread winner He Will have to spend more time away than Mom. He is not going to be the cook that she is or keep a home like she can. Remember they have their reasons for separation and You are not supposed to judge them because You may not have all the facts. Being with one of them does not mean you turn away from the other one. Love them both because they both love you. Unless one of them has hurt you try and be comfortable with both of them. Think of the location they will live in and how that works with your school and friends. Usually mothers are more understanding than fathers. Fathers usually fill the control role and lack the ability to deal with intimate things with a girl whereas the mother lacks the skills to deal with a boy. Make a list of pros and cons for each of them and let that guide your decisions.

Answer 4

The child sholud not, cannot choose.
This is what the courts and mature parents are for, to decide which parent the child should live with the majority of the time. I believe in SHARED custody. One week with one, one with another. Sure it's tough, but missing out on a parent is tough too. Join the suitcase generation -- travel each week -- enjoy your new surroundings and stuff at each parent's house.

Get through the 18 years and then do what you want.

Answer 5

This is a very important decision. I lived with my dad simply because if I moved in with my mom, I'd have to change schools and I was very shy and in high school and had all my friends there. But living with him turned into pure hell after he remarried. Take everything into consideration. But what it comes down to is really, who do you feel more comfortable living with? I loved both my parents but as a teenage girl felt awkward with just my dad around. No matter what though, they should never try to make you feel guilty about who you choose to live with. Good luck. hang in there.

Answer 6

It is totally up to you. Maybe you would be able to spend some time with each parent. - If distance is a problem maybe you could live with one parent and spend the holidays with the other. Dont stress too much. The fact that you are asking this question shows that you really love both your parents and that is wonderful.

Answer 7

Both my parents are deceased. It could be worse for you right??? Although I'm only 25, it hurts still. Maybe you dont have to choose maybe you should express to them that this is hard for you, and you love them both but ur confuse. Put the ballback in there court. I think they may understand.-- I'm thining ur worried about hurting there feelings,! Let them deal with the hardest part!

Answer 8

u shouldnt have to chose that is a horrible position to put a child in, let the judge decide, for you.. and no matter what know that no matter where u live on a full time bases, that you have two parents that love and adore u and will always be there for you..

Good luck

Answer 9

You should not be put in that position let them know you love them both and would like them to share custody other than that it is up to them and/or the courts. It is an unfair part of divorce I know my parents got divorced when I was a child. They both love you to but some times in divorce it is hard for them to put aside there feelings about themselves make sure not to let that influence your feelings about them. The divorce is between them and has nothing to do with you!

Answer 10

you are lucky that it is a hard choice for you... sounds like you have great parents
if you are able to i would spend equal time with both... i did that for 13 years and had the best of both worlds
my parents gave me so much time and love equally
i love them dearly today
sometimes it is hard with school
but maybe talk to them about it and they may be able to help you come to an excellent decision

Answer 11

I would choose the most disciplined parent. The one that keeps me in line, makes sure that I do the things that I need to do whether I want to do them or not.
That is the stuff that helps you succeed in life.
Then you have the other parent to totally have fun with.