me and my boy friend tim appley(pronounced apple) who are madly in love had sex about 2 moths ago and i got pergnant i love tim but he thinks he might be queer.My questions are did i turn him queer?will he be there for his child and me?and my last question unrealited to me and tim. how come it is that every hot guys is either queer of takin?
2006-08-03 18:00:49 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
me and tim have dated since 5th grade
2006-08-03 18:06:41 · update #1
i graduated a yeaer early and i cant handal tim being queer and having a baby but he is the daddy and he says he will always help me and our children asuming we had any and i wanted to get pregnant also timm thaught he was queer his whole like but we were in love
2006-08-03 18:11:11 · update #2
CAN SOME ONE IM ME AT caramalcarmit2006 SO WE CAN PRIVATLY TALK ABOUT THIS
2006-08-03 18:14:46 · update #3
to talk to me in private so i dont get embarssed on here just click my avatar then im me
2006-08-03 18:19:57 · update #4
Tim may be scared bout bing a dad but he said he has had these feelings since he was like 11
2006-08-03 18:21:11 · update #5
Tim is also 17 about to turn 18
2006-08-03 18:22:38 · update #6
Tim and i have had sex atlest 30 or more times
2006-08-03 18:34:49 · update #7
You think you should worry about what your going to do about the baby. Him being gay is the least of your worries.
2006-08-03 18:05:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok honey..if your man (tiim) told you he is or might be queer..then sweetheart he IS!!! NO Man would joke around about that!!!! It's not something guys will do!! If you are indeed pregnant then plan on raising your child as a single parent...but I am sure the queer guy tim will help out!! You didn't say anything bad about him!! Other than the fact that you had sex with him and then after the sex he told you he thinks he is queer!
And NOOOOOOOOO YOU DIDN'T TURN HIM QUEER.....silly Girl! If someone is queer they ARE!! if they are straight they are....noooo turning ANYONE...don't sweat that ....You didn't do anything...help anything or hurt anything to turn someone queer or Not!!
To answer your question...is he gonna be there for his or your c hild? hmmm....you can only answer that...is he a good person? is he a creep that will have sex, get a woman pregnant and then just forget about her and his unborn child? If that is the case then you can have a dna paternity test and then he will only have to pay child support.
And your last question..........It's silly to think every hot guy or taken guy is queer!!! That Simply Is NOt True!! Although it seems like that at most times !!!
HaNG IN THERE AND....Listen to What I said!!! GoodLuck Babe!!!
2006-08-04 01:14:27 · answer #2 · answered by krYpToNitEsMoM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! You didn't turn him queer, it's a choice he made himself. Maybe he always knew that he was queer or maybe he just wanted to have sex with you to make sure being a queer is what he really wanted. Sometimes it just takes something this drastic to make ones mind up about their sexuality.
As for being there for you and the baby, that's up to him. If he doesn't want to be labeled as a "dead beat dad" then he will more than likely support the child 100%.
And for your last question.... not every "hot" guy is a queer or is taken. Instead of trying to snag a guy on his looks, try looking for a decent guy with an amazing personality. One that likes you for you, one that will respect you, your mind, body and soul. A guy with an amazing personality, great morals and knowledge on how to treat a lady will honestly be more gorgeous than some guy who is "hot" based on his looks.
2006-08-04 01:33:08 · answer #3 · answered by talbot_andrews 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um ya....I am a girl.
Being 34 and a first time parent (our baby was borning january) Parenthood is tough. I am glad I waited till I was this age so i could party and have fun and get it out of my system.
Doing this at 17...I can't even imagine how hard it is going to be.
You didn't turn your man queer. If he is having doubts I am sure he has had them for a while. IF he does feel that he is gay he can still be a good father but it really depends on him. Hopefully he is happy about being a father and will take responsibility and enjoy it. Unfortunately boys at that age are still very immature and tend to make bad relationship decisions. I wish the best for you.
Girls like men that take care of themselves and that are well groomed. Gays and Metro sexuals tend to be obsessive about their appearance.
2006-08-04 01:12:24 · answer #4 · answered by sshazzam 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, does it shouldn't matter whether he is gay or not, just whether he is a good father to his baby. If he doesn't support you (not saying he will or won't) it's not impossible to raise a child on your own. I'm 18 tomorrow and have a 6 month old daughter. I don't know who her father is, because I was so drunk (one of the few times I drunk alcohol) when I conceived her that I don't remember much. But I don't let that stop me from loving my daughter more than anything.
But saying that, even if he doesn't want to stick together with you, he will still have to pay child support payments (I'm presuming you have that in your country, we have it here in New Zealand) so you will still be getting some money from him.
2006-08-04 06:25:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey kiddo- I really feel for you. I was there but I didn't get pregnant. I used to be a model (I am 37 and married Paul when I was 16) He was in the Army back when gays weren't allowed in the military so I thought he was OK. Then I met his boyfriend. I was totally messed up with all of that for years and I am grateful I didn't have a child with him because I found out he committed suicide over his issues. I had to see a shrink and found out that gay men have a genetic difference in their brain and they just can't help it that they prefer their own sex to beautiful women. You did not turn him gay. But he is the father of your child and I would do everything to make sure that he pays child support and does what a father needs to do. His sexual preference doesn't interfere with his ability to be a father so don't let him slack off. And don't let him blame you for his sexual preferences. That is his issue and not yours. I wish you luck.
2006-08-04 02:33:32 · answer #6 · answered by madamesophia1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not sure if u did this 2 him but i think you need 2 make sure he will be there 4 u and this baby no matter what...and i always ask my friends the same thing about y hot guys r takin or queer....that is so stupid and i hate it! but you seriously need 2 talk 2 tim
2006-08-04 02:08:13 · answer #7 · answered by chelseanaynay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't turn him to the other side. Being gay won't have anything to do with his being there for his kid. If he genuinely cares for you (platonically or romantically), he'll adore his baby. If he decides he's gay, it will be hell for you because you will always love him and think of him in romantic terms. I've been there. Trust me on this. Please decide to do the best thing for this new life and adopt it out to a family with a stable, mature, commited mother and father. There are so many couples who would do anything to have a child to love and nuture, and so many young girls having babies they're not ready for and try to raise them anyway. I know you think you can handle this, but let yourself fully grow up first. Deal with You and Tim right now. Let YOUR life be your focus now, not a new baby.
2006-08-04 01:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by Margie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not turn him queer. He was born that way. Why would you have unprotected sex with someone you obviously don't know very well? You have made a terrible mistake and now your life will change drastically. Have you told your parents that you are pregnant? You have no idea what you are in for, foolish girl.
2006-08-04 01:05:22 · answer #9 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You did not turn tim queer tim already is questioning himself no girl will ever be able to turn a guy queer she may turn him to be bisexual if he's questioning himself. do not have this baby chances are he is not ready and neither are you...hot guys who are queer care about appearances unlike many straight guys
2006-08-04 01:07:21 · answer #10 · answered by goldengirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you did not turn him gay. Being gay is a choice people make, it doesn't just happen...like love. Love is a choice not a feeling....anywho, I can't tell if he's gonna be there for you and your baby. Pray to God about. He's the one that knows and will help you through it. And alas, I'm sorry, for I too feel that all the hott fione guys are turning gay right in front of my eyes....when will the madness stop?!
2006-08-04 01:05:37 · answer #11 · answered by K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋