I was listening to the radio one day and a news story came on.
a school was changing the games they played at the school from
competitive games like dodge ball, to noncompetitive games like
circle of friends. first of all how do you play a game with no
losers. with no losers there are no winners. I know supposedly in
circle of friends everybody wins. lol. second of all how do you play
circle of friends. I know in competitive games you give kids a
competitive complex but in noncompetitive games you set kids in
a denial of losing. in other words no body should lose. everybody's
always going to be on my side. so the last question is. which ones worse. giving a kid a competitive spirit or having them hold hands and think the world is just going to be a breeze.
2006-08-03 17:58:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
The game isn't the problem--the problem is that the school is trying to eliminate competition. A little competition is healthy--keeps you on your toes. Competition helps you learn to cope with defeat and nurtures the spirit of the "If at first you don't succeed, try, try again" mentality, particularly if you are in the USA. Our entire culture is based on not giving up--raging against the odds.
It is important to have good self esteem but people mistakenly believe that you foster good self esteem by making children not feel bad when they lose or are left out. Bad way to go about it. Self esteem comes from believing you are capable in some ways--and understanding your limitations in others. We are on a dangerous slippery slope here if we try and give children a sterile "Everyone loves everyone" PC wold. That simply isn't reality. What will these kids do when they get in the real world and actually fail at something? How will they cope? If you don't teach them how to cope with defeat and/or failure, they will never learn coping skills and perseverance.
It's OK to have some games where there is no winner and everyone feels good---variety is the spice of life. But if there are no games with some level of competition, we are missing out on a great opportunity to teach life skills.
2006-08-03 19:56:33 · answer #1 · answered by sidnee_marie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well the way some of the schools around here do it is that they have more than one option, and the childeren get to choose. You can either play competitively or just for fun when it comes to everybody playing the same thing. They can have a day where they just have to find something active to do with a bunch of items like basketballs or jump ropes, or just go around the track. Naturally some of them start racing or seeing who can do what more times in a row.
2006-08-04 01:06:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't always have to have a dichotomy of either winning or losing. It really is about just playing the game. Loosen up, I think this circle of friends sounds like a good idea.
2006-08-04 01:04:59 · answer #3 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is uncalled for. If a kid can't handle defeat then he shouldn't be in school, or even alive! Our culture is based on competition.
2006-08-04 01:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by metallicajunkie27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's wrong to give kids the idea that life is a peice of cake.They need some sense of reality.
2006-08-04 01:05:43 · answer #5 · answered by Philo42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its going to hit them sooner or later, might as well be sooner. Besides humanity is competition.
2006-08-04 01:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by Lord Kodous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me personally, i think kids need to feel the thrill of winning as well as the agony of defeat in order to be well rounded.
2006-08-04 01:10:08 · answer #7 · answered by Casey M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
blah blah blah. lol
2006-08-04 01:04:18 · answer #8 · answered by i_♥_coke&water 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol... oman
2006-08-04 01:07:09 · answer #9 · answered by (NO) NAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋