I'v been living with my fiance for a year and a half now and i feel like he is trying to avoid marrying me when i ask him he says becouse he has no money and he wants to give me a proper wedding but i dont want it i just want to be his wife some times i feel like he dosent love me what should i do?
2006-08-03 17:42:20 · 11 answers · asked by BRENDA L 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I lived with my wife for 2 years before I finally asked her to marry me. I was truly in love and wanted the time to be right. I hadn't much money and really wanted to give her a memorable wedding, even though she said that a simple wedding would have been just fine. I believe that I loved her enough to give her the best that I could give. We have been married now for almost 20 years and I still love her as much as I did back then. Your fiance may just want to give you that which he believes you deserve and then some. If you feel that he does love you, hang on tight and enjoy the ride. Good Luck
2006-08-03 18:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by robert w 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
ok, first of all , although u dont have the paper, ur already living as husband and wife.. just with out the legal bind.. so 1. hes already gotten what he wants, a built in wife with out the legal hassels.. (basically u've made it easy) 2. Dont push someone into marriage that isnt ready even if they use money as the excuse.. marriage is hard enough with out entering into it under stress, only causes resentment later.. 3. If u are basing his love merely on a piece of paper, ur in alot of trouble.. Love is so much more then a piece of paper.. if u really love him.. give him some more time a year and a half really isnt that long especially if he does walk u down the isle, if ur meant to be together forever, then in retrospect a year and a half is just a drop in the bucket.. back off , give him some space.. and give him some more time..
2006-08-03 17:49:22 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you really think. That is the best solution because like you say that you feel that he does not love you anymore is because maybe he does not. The biggest mistake that you did was to agree to live with him. When people live with someone else its is harder from then to get married because guys see it as a "for what" type of thing. But if he does not like you and tells you he does he is just wasting your time. Don't waste your time on empty promises. Dont wait till the last minute. Good Luck.
2006-08-03 17:49:32 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to set him down and tell him how you are feeling. there is more to marriage then the wedding day.... My husband was thrilled when i told him i'd rather save for our home then to spend on a lavish wedding. We spent a total of 500.00 on our wedding...... it was so beautiful..... and i will never forget it. Tell him you want him and not the wedding he wants me to have...tell him you want a home with him not a fancy wedding.... And if he still stalls, then tell him you have to give his engadgement ring back and move on in life and find someone you can be a wife to..... You will know by his reaction what you have to do....I wish you all the best....I hope he decides to marry you.... You are loved and will be loved.... Just let him know you are serious...
2006-08-03 17:54:40 · answer #4 · answered by wva_butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him to marry you. If he refuses, pack your stuff -- you know exactly where you stand. Get on with your life, you're wasting your time
2006-08-03 18:07:19 · answer #5 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set a date for him to make up his mind. why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free. sorry but thats the way I see it.
2006-08-03 17:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him and find out what the real answer is, sounds like he avoiding get married for whatever reason .... talk to him
2006-08-03 17:49:15 · answer #7 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cant tell if you are just unhappy and in an unhappy relationship or just not ready for marriage..its a toughy
2006-08-03 17:48:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe you should talk to him about it. you should be open about your feelings. don't just keep it to yourself y know?!
yknow what.. guys will ask you these words "WILL YOU MARRY ME?" once he is ready to commit. maybe give him more time and dont rush him. It will all come in His time. :) God Bless!
2006-08-03 17:48:28 · answer #9 · answered by cosmicgiRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thast hard to say but try talking to him how u feel
2006-08-03 17:47:01 · answer #10 · answered by lisa h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋