we are engaged. i brought her here with me in canada. we fight a lot for 1 reason.she refuses to understand we have budget constraints and that we can not do and spend what we want. i have 2500 $ on my saving account + a 250.000$ debt accumulated while i was not working , 1500 $ a month for work and 1500$ rent. i promised her she could take langage courses but prices are very high.i try to find cheaper.she calls me a lier because i refuse to spend all i have in savings.so she pushed me today saying i am a lier and i ended up beating her.squezzing her neck,,mouth...hands so she stops screaming.she has bruses on her neck and i have a brocken finger becuse i hit her hips while she was screaming.i spend alot of money on her and she has not reasonnoble parents. i tell her if she lieves me she needs to pay me back everything. when we were living before i was dating a ex-hoar married with two kids.when she was asking me if i cheat her with this hoar i said no.but there were still messages .
2006-08-03 17:21:49 · 6 answers · asked by mkgirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
#1 - YOU sound abusive and need to get out of this relationship immediately before you harm her permanetly! #2 - YOU need some type of counseling after you are out of this relationship #3 -Your question and explanation are very confusing!! ps-let her go-the sooner the better- for you and her. Forget about the money. You've learned a good lesson.
2006-08-03 17:31:54 · answer #1 · answered by HolidayGurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, it is NEVER, NEVER okay to get physical and hit, choke or constrain someone, male or female-when it is someone you supposedly love!!!!!!! Second, she sounds pretty spoiled or wants to be self-indulgent by trying to get you to always buy stuff. Does SHE not have a job?!!? Unless she speaks only french, she should be out working. If she DOES only speak french, forget how much the language courses cost, and get her into them! With the condition that she find a job when she is done, that should be ok. Unless you think she won't try to find a job. Either stay with her and hope she'll get a job and understand the financial constraints, or break up with her, and you will have paid for a very exspensive lesson. There MIGHT be a way to get you're money back-but probably not. It'll cost you MORE than you would probably get. I don't understand the messages about ex-hore...
But you live and learn. Chalk this up to a lesson learned, cut you losses and get out of the relationship. And NO MORE abusing women NO MATTER HOW ANGRY THEY MAKE YOU!!!! It's Chicken ****, and makes you less of a man to not be able to control your rage. Next time hit the wall or some other inanimate object!
2006-08-04 00:35:44 · answer #2 · answered by shannon e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHOA! Sounds like you have some serious problems. First of all you should never strike a woman (didn't your mother teach you any manners?). Second of all you need to reconsider being engaged to this person. It sounds like you 2 bring the worst out in each other. You have a lot of debt and you can only budget for so much, but she wants to spend everything you have....this just cannot work. It will take 2 people, 2 incomes to make things work. You 2 are not team players and not demonstrating that you can handle being life partners. My suggestion is to get rid of the girl, get some anger managment counseling, and start focusing on paying off your debt.
2006-08-04 00:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you do not hit women. I feel by reading this that you have Anger issues and need to sit down with her and tell her you are sorry and you have enrolled in anger management and if she wishes to leave you while you are in treatment, you will understand.
Second, there is no way out of your debt, it will be 20+ years being very dilligent. your best route is bankruptcy chapter 7. get a fresh start.
Third, she thinks you have money because you spent it on her when you were wooing her, now that you won her heart you want to tell her you have no money? you lied and decieved her to get her into bed. you were the big shot, big man, the playa, now what? your broke and an abuser? dude I hate to be so harsh but you need to learn what love is and how to nurture it. true love knows not money, only feelings that nurture the heart. get on your knees and mean you are sorry, say the words, and do the actions.
2006-08-04 00:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by bruserdog 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know what,,,this relationship is NOT going to work... You have to be responsible if you want things in life.... I completely understand where you are coming from, but you hitting her is Wrong... You should have took her home dropped her off and said See ya Later.....You need to end this relationship.... She isnot beibg responsible...and you are lashing out due to her rages and it is just going round and round. You and her cannot come to a compromise, then ou need to part ways.... This is far beyond a mutual Disagreement... COunt your losses and move on....If you live together, pack up and move out....You have enough money to get your own place... It's Never Going To Work between u 2
2006-08-04 00:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by wva_butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell he r to grow up and get a job
2006-08-04 00:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋