2006-08-03 17:21:31 · 9 answers · asked by the c 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
It depents what exactly are you bored with? pin-point it, ask yopurself the right questions, and you'll be presented with teh answers (but be patient with answers coming, don't rush into anything...)
Marriage has many parts, so is it looking at the same person (e.g. his look hasn't changed apart from getting older - but then again do you update your look/hai/clothes/make up). Is it haveing the same conversations day in day out (find something new to learn together, move house, buy a new 4WD and go camping together, buy new furniture or move the old one around, renovate, paint rooms... this will create new topics for conversation)... so therfore work on some project, by yourself or together...
Remember, boredom requires change, new challenges, metal, emotional, physical adn/or spiritual growth... but it can all be constructive or destructive... make sure for the peace of mind you don't look for the distructive way out (affair, devorce - it might bring temporary excitment adn pleasure, but will create more head and heart ache for everyone involved).
Read some books on marriage (e.g. His needs - her needs, Making love last forewer, Saying it so he'll listen, Sexs starts in the kitchen etc). Make sure you talk to him, but be patien, kind, do not accuse... maybe he is bored too adn needs change, but don't scare him off if he's content and resists change and fears excitment... if he doens't follow suit, then get yourself out adn about, find new frineds, write a book, research something, go back to school, help orphans in india or something... rolling stone does not gather moss...
2006-08-03 17:59:55 · answer #1 · answered by Art 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Live with it. After 20 years you and your partner ( should) know each other pretty well, if this makes it boring for you then so be it. Why don't you take your partner away for a nice vacation? Get out of the dauly grind.
2006-08-04 00:26:02 · answer #2 · answered by Courage 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something together. You can take a class, go on vacation, or even just make it mandatory that you go out every Friday night! Perhaps you can even spice things up a bit in the bedroom. Every marriage goes through this at some point, and if you want to be happy together you have to keep the excitement up!
2006-08-04 00:31:33 · answer #3 · answered by munkees81 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date your spouse. We have been married 21 years and we have date nights w/out kids. It can be a simple as going to the beach and walking, window shopping (my husbands least favorite thing to do, but he knows I like it), take a day trip somewhere, or movies and dinner. Don't wait for your spouse to suggest something. Take the initiative, talk to your spouse and tell them you are bored. My son sees how much fun we have and how happy we are and he encourages us to go out.
2006-08-04 00:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Kim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hobby. Vacation. Conversation.
2006-08-04 00:24:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try something new. Say for instance, you two could go out and pretend you don't know each other. Either one could walk up to the other and start introducing themselves as they would have for the first time. See which one is willing to go all the way on the first date.
2006-08-04 00:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by Shelle Rock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to get that new Jag? Corvette? Or are you a truck man?
2006-08-04 00:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a vacation like a cruise
2006-08-04 00:29:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a girlfriend. Start a threesome.
2006-08-04 05:03:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋