my daughter is 6 months old and will not let anyone but me and her father (sometimes) hold her........?

Question

my daughter loves to be around other people and she will smile at them, but once they reach out to hold her....she starts crying and wont let anyone else hold her. im a stay at home mommy so i am around her all the time and i have never let anyone else watch her so i can see why she is so attached to me.

does anyone else have a baby that does that?

Answer 1

You're doing great! Your daughter is social and enjoys interacting with other people. Don't let anyone convince you she needs to spend time in daycare! She's normal. Make sure you're not subliminally 'telling' her to be nervous when others reach for her such as tensing, or anticipating her negative response. Try to always have a positive and accepting air about you when others reach for her (if you want them to hold her, of course). I am glad my son won't go to anyone who reaches for him. I received a warm hug (on my leg) from a 3 year old today; we were just in the same parking lot together, we didn't know each other. I'm so thankful my son is not like that. There's enough safety issues to worry about!

Answer 2

I started very early preventing this problem because as she gets older it will get worse and develop into seperation anxiety. I was a stay at home mom too, however I let other people hold her from day one, so she doesn't fear strangers. Just recently I started back to work working part time...this way I'm with my daughter in the morning and then she does a couple hours of daycare to get baby time. She is now 9 months old. She is clingy to me but she is in her mommy stage. She doesn't cry when I drop her off, she loves her playtime.

Answer 3

It is normal for a 6 months to want only you to hold her. Never having left her with anyone else is *not* the cause; even babies who are left regularly with babysitters will suddenly refuse to be handled by others. She is attached to you because she loves you, not because you did anything wrong; if she *wasn't* attached to you, it would be the sign of a problem.

She will grow out of this stage, so just give her time. Don't force her to do things she isn't ready for. Apologize to the grandparents, aunts, uncles, or anyone who takes it as an insult. It isn't meant that way, and your daughter will be more outgoing when she is developmentally ready for it.

Answer 4

I knew a little baby girl who was the same way. I knew her up until the time she was almost two, and it took THAT long for her to let me hold her. Same thing - spending time at home with mom, which is what a good majority of kids do. But some are just more shy.

It will probably pass when she gets into her talking and walking stage. She might still be shy but eventually she should grow out of it.

Answer 5

Yes, My daughter is all most 16months and she is just now getting to were she will go with other people and let other people hold her but the minute i walk by or leave the room she will freak out. If i was you i would try to let her stay with your mother, your mother-in-law or someone close Aunts, cousins, etc.. It only get worse if you don't do something about it now because she will go thought her terrible twos and start to through temper tantrums. Also it might be hard for you to leave her and she will cry but after about 15 minutes she will calm down because there attention span isn't that long and there mind is easy to entertain. But good luck and i hop that my advice helps you out.

Answer 6

Children are not us reincarnated but they do have a lot of our traits. Do you or daddy have a tendancy toward shyness? Are either of you warey of people? Or if that's not the case do you get out on a regular basis to parks or childrens groups. You can still go to play groups even with children under 6mo. But just don't worry. She still thinks shes attached by the umbilical cord and won't realise that you are not an actual part of her for quite some time...that's when you need to worry about her being clingy. I suggest looking up some local information on child developement classes or programs a lot of times they are free and really help us just to understand our childs individual personalities.

Answer 7

Girls are just like that. My daughter would see certain family members and friends almost on a daily basis, and she act like she never saw them in their life. She would play with them from a distance, but don't try to get her to hold her, because she wasn't having it. She started around 5 months old, and she started calming down when she was about 10 months old. She will outgrow it.

Answer 8

Yes it is called the "Mommy Stage" your little girl is beginning to realize that she is a separate being from you. Congrats that her father is included in the group. When my daughter did it she only wanted Mommy. Do not worry she will grow out of it, let her enjoy other people in her comfort zone. Do not feel you cannot leave her with a babysitter, she will cope. Don't worry it won't last forever, enjoy being her only one while it lasts.

Answer 9

maybe try to let a friend or parent watch her for a 1/2 or so each week while you do something like shop or take a nap.It will only last for a week or so(her being uncomfortable) I do this with my kids, son is 5 and daughter is 3 months so that they understand and are ok with me not always being around.I promise it will help a lot. just be patient.Lots of babies do this because their memories aren't developed like ours and when you leave they think you are not coming back.Its anxiety.Out of sight out of mind. Doing this will help all three of you.and she will learn that its ok when you and daddy arent there or arent holding her

Answer 10

That is totally normal. Soon she'll grow out of that and let other people hold them. But don't be so attached to her. That'll spoil her a lot and she'll get an attutide when u don't want to hold her.