Back in October my best friend got with this guy and they seemed really happy together. She introduced us 2 weeks after that and I was totally attracted to him from first sight.I knew it was wrong but I couldnt help myself and I began texting him being a really flirty. To my surprise he was instantly attracted to me too but he just wasnt the kind of guy that cheats so nothing happened.I decided to stay away from him because I didnt want to interfere.After they had been together for about 6 months we began talking again and this time he got serious about doing something.We went out and had a really great time.I learned he had been wanting to go out with me for a really long time but never did because he thought I was trying to set him up.He didnt even want to be with her any more but didnt break up with her because he didnt want to hurt her and he wanted to be with me.I thought long and hard before I said yes.He broke up with her 2 days later and now we're together.Am I a bad friend?
2006-08-03 17:10:18 · 20 answers · asked by Beautiful♥Baby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well, you should probably think about how YOU would feel in your best friend's position. It wouldn't feel 2 good, would it? there are plenty of other guys out there besides your best friend's exes. You need to learn boundaries unless you have some type of case by case agreement on each situation with your friend.
2006-08-03 17:15:33 · answer #1 · answered by trecie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is NO kinda about it..... you are guility of interfering in something you should have not...friends do NOT do friends this way..... I am surprised you even have to ask this question...... how would you feel if the roles were reversed ?? you crossed an unspoken friend line..... you broke the trust bond that *friends* have..... shame on you.... I would be surprised if your friend is still talking to you.... I know I wouldnt...... you should have talked to your *friend* and been up front and honest about the whole thing, BEFORE it got out of hand..... I wonder just how old you are ??? if you are under 18, what you did is still wrong, but you have learned an important life leason..... you just do NOT cross that sacred line of trust.......and to top it all off, you fell for the oldest trick in the book, keep the g/f on stand by just in case..... God bless
2006-08-03 17:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously you were a bad friend... but i'm not saying that you're a bad person. you just chose love over friendship. anyway, the reason why i'm saying you're a bad friend is because in the first place, you should have not texted and flirted with her bf. i don't know how old you are but you must be really young because you don't know the fact that guys get tempted easily. another thing is that you should have not went out with him when they were still together. ..also, i think that the guy is weak. he doesn't wanna be with her so he decided to cheat? what is that?what's worse, he goes out with his gf's friend? oh wellz, sorry if i sound harsh. anyway, always remember that if if he could do that to your friend, he could do it to you too. goodluck!
2006-08-03 17:37:32 · answer #3 · answered by minkee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't kinda steal your best friend's boyfriend. You DID steal her boyfriend. You pursued him by being flirty and encouraged his attention and he dumped her for you. That's STEALING a boyfriend. If you were a true friend, you NEVER would have been texting your best friend's boyfriend and trying to get him to like you. That's just evil. If he didn't want to hurt her, he never would have started dating you. How do you think your "best friend" (nobody treats somebody they care about like you treated her) feels right now? If he would do this to your best friend (even if it's with you), does that make him a good guy? This is very bad kharma for you, girlie.
2006-08-03 17:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are i had a friend in HS who like this guy alot this guy had asked me on a date the day before she wasgoing to ask him out because I knew she wanted to ask him out I stood him up... they had a relationship that lasted 5 years if i had gotten involved i would have felt like sh*t even though i found him attractive.
but followed my FRIEND who had been there long before and still is my friend.
hope he makes you happy cause Karma comith
2006-08-03 17:23:41 · answer #5 · answered by pandala777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it is kinda bad usually your best friends mate is look but dont touch. years ago i slept with one of my best friends girl and not only were we caught we were caught in the act! i lost my friend that day and ive never seen him since. as for the girl we broke up within a few months if i could go back and change things i would of.
2006-08-03 17:20:32 · answer #6 · answered by Eric F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you are not a good friend. He broke up with her to be with you. Does she know you are dating him? Are you going to tell her what happened? Do you still want her as a friend?
2006-08-03 17:27:11 · answer #7 · answered by divag 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have waited for him to break up with her. I think he just wanted to be sure that you will be with him before he breaks up with your friend. Sorry to say but if he can do that to your friend then he will do it to you too . Maybe when your friend learned about it she won't regret it.
2006-08-03 17:23:05 · answer #8 · answered by amber200271 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are terrible!!!! I actually had an ex-best friend do that to me and I kicked her ***!!! Sounds like you need the same. Shame on you!
2006-08-03 17:38:27 · answer #9 · answered by Betty Sue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I HATE girls like you... you disgust me!! YES YOU ARE A HORRIBLE FRIEND.. not only that ,, YOU SHOULD NOT even be called a friend..
This will come back to you and will happen to you the same exat way, I pray to god!
2006-08-03 17:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by JoToCo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋