MY four month old now fusses when she sees me when shes playing soo nicely because she wants to be picked up?

Question

how can I stop this....or do I just pick her up everytime and get use to it?

Answer 1

Your baby is establishing who she's going to be for the rest of her life. She must learn to trust from you, but to do that she must experience the frustration of not having you rush to console her everytime she makes a noise. I'm not sure if this is what you're doing or not, but just know that selective frustration is very healthy for babies (and toddlers), and allowing her to be upset for a little bit and then learn that you will be there is allowing her to establish trust in her future relationships. On a side note, you are also allowing her to learn how to self-soothe which is also very healthy.

Answer 2

While I agree whole heartedly that you can not spoil a baby I do know for a fact that you can drive the mother INSANE! Children that get held every time they cry learn quickly that they will receive attention every time they get picked up. I have been a stay at home mom and daycare provider for over 4 years and I suggest for busy moms and moms of non ill or colicy babies the 10 minute rule.

1 Make sure that you meet all necessary needs of your child
a. food
b. diaper
c. dress
d. check fever
e. entertainment etc.
f. lots of quality and play time

2 Once you have met these needs try to figure out when and why your child might be crying. You can do this for a few days just to be sure.

3. If it seems that your baby has had all their needs met, is not ill, uncomfortable or gassy you can then apply the 10 minute rule.

4. When your child starts to cry time it from ten minutes if at the end of 10 minutes they are not crying harder than they were at the begining then that usualy indicates they just want all your focus on them. Let them cry for another 10 and then just follow your instincts.

IMPORTANT FACT #1

Children need their parents and they need their parents to be whole sound and be able to provide stability, comfort and safety. If you are holding your child so much that you feel anxious stressed out because you are not meeting the needs of your self, your family or your life, then you are not going to be able to provide those nessecary elements no matter how much you hold them.

IMPORTANT FACT #2

The biggest myth in the history of children!!!!!!!!! CHILDREN DO NOT ALWAYS CRY FOR A REASON!!! If you have taken ANY child developement, daycare, or even talked to your doctor about it they will let you know for a FACT that children NEED to cry for MANY reasons. For instance stress relief, think about the shear magnatude of information that newborns and babys have to not only take in but learn as well. Babys also do not get excersize and crying not only gets blood moving but a little bit of crying also helps to strengthen their lungs and helps prevent SIDS.

So next time you feel overwhelmed and you've met all your childs needs you can feel GOOD about letting them fuss for just 10 minutes.

Answer 3

Mine just started doing the same at 6 months. I think it is pretty normal for every baby to go through a stage where all they want is mommy. Sometimes I will let mine just cry it out for a few mins and he will go back to playing. Other times when I know he won't stop I give him the love and attention he wants because I tell myself the are only little once and for so long. So why not enjoy the cuddles while you can. Good luck :)

Answer 4

No. Don't pick her up. That just spoils her and she will always want to be held when she fusses. Just check if she is hungry or needs to be changed.

Answer 5

She loves you and wants to be with her mommy. You just need to learn not to go around her when she is playing nicely with Daddy or Gma and get done what you need done if you don't want to pick her up or have things to do.

Answer 6

Pick her up and cuddle her. Pretty soon, you're going to want to hug her and she won't. She'll be all like "leave me alone". You can't spoil a baby that tiny. Nothin' wrong with a baby wanting her mama.

Answer 7

You can pick her up and kiss her and tell her how much you love her then put her back down and give her something that will distracts her like a mobile or something to that effect.

Answer 8

she fusses because you will .. you dont have to pick her up every time.this doesnt make you bad.look at it this way, you can buy her a corvette when she grows up or she can be stong enough to buy her own ..

Answer 9

did you know that the neural connections in your baby's brain are only formed when you are touching your baby. weird but true.