He has an addiction to smoking weed, it didn't bother me when we first got together, but now that we are trying to get things together he doesn't want to stop. He had said he was going to when our son was born, but he didn't. I don't know what more to tell him. I tell him whats more important his weed or his family, and all he says is to shut up and leave him alone.
2006-08-03 17:03:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Show him you are serious take your son & yourself & leave the house & tell him you refuse to come back untill he starts getting help with his addiaciton
2006-08-03 17:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by love mikey long time 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The most important thing that you realize is that what your husband is struggling with is an addiction - WHen you are addicted to something it is not an easy task to just stop doing what you are doing - let him know that you and your son can NOT live in that type of environment anymore and don't throw idle threats - if you have to go stay with relatives for a while to prove to him you are very serious - telll him if he wants to continue to hurt himself that's his choice but you will not risk your health or the health of your son because he refuses to admit he has a problem - Sometimes a little time apart from the one's you love is enought to at least get an admission of the problem and hopefully some help to solve it
2006-08-04 00:13:11 · answer #2 · answered by 2deep4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he tells you to shut up and leave him alone...go pack a small bag and grab the baby and leave his *** ......................Do not look back keep on going make him sit and think and wonder for a few hours or days and when he asks why you left tell him..that he said to leave him alone and if he wants it can be permanent if he doesn't stop smoking the weed
2006-08-04 00:24:07 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll tell you he's not addicted, he'll tell you that he'll stop when he's ready, blah, blah, blah... Life lesson. You ignored the fact that you were getting involved with someone who used illegal drugs. Now you are married to a druggie and he's the father of your child. You made a mistake. Take his advice and leave him alone, permanently. There are good men out there, it just takes time to find one. Next time heed the warning signals when you see them. Or you can ride the rollercoaster with your hubby as he makes promises and breaks them, I'll go to rehab, I'll quit, I'm not lying, I just took one little hit, I just smoked one joint, what's the big deal, weed should be legal... Whatever!!! Good luck and God Bless.
2006-08-04 00:19:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women always think they can change men after they get married or have a relationship but they never change. Men are the opposite, they always want things to stay the same and never change.
His response to "shut up and leave him alone" is very telling. If he were willing to discuss it with you that would be one thing. You have to make a decision, give an ultimatum and stick to it.
2006-08-04 00:24:26 · answer #5 · answered by Redheadinbed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shut up and leave me alone is his way of saying he chooses the weed over you and his son. i would leave him. hes in too deep and doesn't want to come out for even the people that care about him the most. you deserve better.
2006-08-04 01:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is more important to him, his family or his weed? His weed. He is an addict. He has to want to stop and change his life and chances are he will need professional help.
2006-08-04 00:11:06 · answer #7 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then, shut up and leave him alone. And by that, of course, I mean, LEAVE!!!! We pot smokers come up with excuse after excuse to not quit. "It's not that serious. There are more serious drugs out there. I just do it for recreation." But when he realizes that this is REALLY upsetting you and your family, maybe he'll stop. Maybe he won't. But it is absolutely your right to demand that he quit. I had to quit for my husband. It sucked. It really, really sucked, but I did it. But it wasn't impossible. You'll have to be supportive of a couple of mood swings when he does finally quit. But, it's more important that your son has a father and not a pothead.
2006-08-04 00:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by Chris 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This issue existed before you came into the picture. You cant change a person. He wont stop and you having an issue about this now is probably making him smoke more. If you leave him he will smoke more and you confront him about this he will smoke more.
-TooCool4School
2006-08-04 00:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Imrickjamesbeotch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, you have a very important decision to make.. i understand that you love your husband, but he doesnt want to deal with his problem, unfortunately... and im not one thats typically for divorce.. but ask yourself this.. your son and your husband are drowning.. and u can only save one.. who do u save..??? your son of course right?? well unfortunately your husband is drowning right now in his addiction, and he's bringing u and your child down with him, so u have a choice.. do u stay and try to save a man thats causing his family to sink, or do u finally find the strength to say, "go find help, when u kick your habit come for us.. " and save your child.. ??? Doesnt mean u have to divorce him, but u need to protect your child from harm, possibly by moving out till he gets it together, and the life your husband is chosing to lead, and the role model he's chosing to be for your son is wrong and u know this.. so whats more important, to be a good wife? or to be a good mother.. ur choice, but i think we both know which one u need to choose..
Good Luck..
2006-08-04 00:23:57 · answer #10 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it's kinda hard now because as you said it didn't bother you when ya'll were first together so it's kinda hard to start saying no i'm sorry i don't want you doing it anymore. it's an addiction and will take time and effort on both of ya'lls part. Just be strong and explain to him why it's so important to you for him to quit. but be sure to listen as to why he feels he needs it.
2006-08-04 00:22:04 · answer #11 · answered by Cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋