i need a psycologist or SOMEONE to tell me sumthing!?

Question

why do humans always want what we cant have?? like whether its a guy or its expensive clothing??? ahhh!! =(

Answer 1

im not a psychologist and i dont know what will be the right term for your question but human is human it is what we create for thats why we have a brain and a heart to live and to tell us what we want to do when we really like a guy its b'coz we saw something to him that our heart tells us that you like him and when we like an expensive clothes eventhough we know that we cant have it. its b'coz we human just want to impress someone or we want to look good but b'coz we dont have the ability to buy that we just have the gut feeling about it.

Answer 2

Human beings, unlike other beings in this world, have the ability to daydream. There's no harm in that, as a rule. No one would have invented the wheel if we all just accepted things the way they are. You wouldn't be using a computer if someone hadn't invented them. There's nothing wrong with daydreams unless they take over your real life. You want some guy? No harm in that. Throwing yourself in front of his car in order to get his attention, however, is not healthy. It's probable that wanting him, even if you can't have him, will make you think about why you're so interested. And you'll learn what is important to you in men, so you'll be able to identify the right guy when he does come along.

Want expensive clothes? Great ! ! ! It's a wonderful incentive for you to study hard so you can get a marvelous job that pays you lots of money so you can go out and buy all the expensive clothes you want.

But, as you get older, and -- hopefully -- mature, you learn that there are things that you can daydream about and things that you can actually attain. You learn to know the difference and strive to reach goals that are truly within your grasp. That's a good thing.

Answer 3

Because it strokes our ego in a good way, these things that we want. Once we have them, we feel more "complete" and have a higher value compared to others. This is why some guys will go off and off about their damn car when I, on the other hand, could care less! But it's important to him, so I'll lend my attention, smile and nod, and next thing I know he just bought me a beer! Hey, not bad!

But when we can't have something, prime example being "Don't talk to me again, we're done with." That hurts, I know that too. Problem is, if this is desire of yours is the ultimate thing there is, what would happen if you DID get it again? Sure, you'd be on the brink of total happiness now, wouldn't you? But, here's something to think about, would you change from that point?

Think of a graph. The thing you want the absolute most is at the coordinates (109283561089576345, 1349857613827465156103586). Whew, that's out there! But what if we changed it to, oh, (909283561089576345, 9349857613827465156103586). All I did was replace the first 1 with a 9. Now it's way, WAY, WAY(!) out there! That first point seems like just a speck compared to this new and FAR more appealing point. Think of your ex as the first point, and your new significant other as the second point. But keep in mind, graphs can go to infinity, so don't ever bound yourself in because you're creating false limits.

It's pathetic to think about it, but Buzz Lightyear really had a point when he said, "To infinity and beyond!"

I don't think it's a question of "why do we want what we can't have" it's more of an axiom of "why don't we want what we have?" I still do both, but I feel balanced between the two :)

Answer 4

Its built into us to keep wanting to fill in a void. I believe everybody has this built into them to a certain degree. That void cannot be filled with monetary value. If you ever meet a million, more than likely their concern is how are they gonna get more. Some people work their whole lives working to get tin little insignificant things just to realize they have nothing in the end. These people realize they haven't lived a single day of their lives. This just doesn't go for money, power too. I believe ,and this is for me. That void is filled with love, love for self and the love you have for a partner, and/or family. We need to understand that we are not perfect ,and these imperfections make us human. You cant always get what you want because if you do then life would be boring. My family fills that void, and they are what make me happy ,and thankful for what I have ,and what I will never see. I once was like that ,but I guess I thought outside the box ,and realized there is too much better things in life than money ,and aiming for a star you will never reach. If you have a dream go for it ,but make sure its for the right reasonsl, and that they will help others too, because attaining things for ones self is a sort of vice. Vice because many who do it keep on doin it. Hope I have helped a little.

Answer 5

Isn't it apparent that we are being manipulated as consumers in a corporate world? To organized religion, we are breeders. To politicians, we are mindless suckers to be misled by jingoistic propaganda. To the business world, we are cattle to be fattened and led to the slaughter of the politicians war. These parasites feed from our collective ignorance and empower one another by feuling our wants through an endless and mindless array of advertising, propagandizing and proselytizing. Is it any wonder that we can never get enough? Henry David Thoreau said: "A man is rich in porportion to that which he can afford to leave alone."

You don't need a psychologist or ANYONE to tell you ANYTHING that you don't already know. Think for yourself, and you will be infinitely happy with who you are and with what you already have.

Answer 6

You just read some philosopher like Gautam Budha or Mahavir Jain or Jesus Christ and you will get the answer.
But to be simple, iy you can understand your mind, you will get the answer. But for that you should come out of the want and think. If you can understand yourself you need not see a psychologist else yes.

Answer 7

Heh, you know what I want? Proper spelling and grammar.

Anyway, humans want because it's a survival mechanism. The one who doesn't want food lets the others get it and in turn starves. As long as there's something better out there people will want it to improve their lives.

Answer 8

I believe we always want what we can't have because we are always making comparisons. What you do have may just work fine and dandy but if you compare it to what you Could have, well, it just doesn't look as good now.
Of course that gives you cause to strive to "better" your circumstances. In this way we progress.

Disclaimer: not a psychologist

Answer 9

It is in our nature never to be satisfied. And even if you get (that dream car, that dream girl, that dream whatever) you will be dissatisfied in no time flat (or a little more, depending) and then you will start looking for something bigger, better elsewhere. It is a long road to discover that it is sometimes best to enjoy what we have, than always longing for something else.

Answer 10

People always want what they can not have because it is part of who we are. Go back to Adam and Eve and the forbidden fruit. It has always been who we are and always will be. No matter who you are or where you're at!