He's always constatnly stressed and frustrated. He refuses to get help, and it's starting to really annoy me. He doesn't even talk to me. He is always saying things like, "One of these days you'll find me dead...." or "...why don't you just watch me kill myself..." He's not originally from this country, so I think a big part of it is not having any family here. I am always in a happy mood and I laugh at everything, where he laughs at nothing. He always accuses me of not taking anything seriously, however, I just don't let stupid things stress me out. I think work is the biggest stress in his life, then finances. When he's not at work, he sleeps - I mean, he easily can sleep for 12-15 hours on his off days, and when he's awake, he just cries. I believe he has serious depression, and I'm begining to think that I can't offer him what he needs to be happy. He's a great guy, but I feel kind of cheated because like I said, I like to laugh, where he doesn't. Am I being selfish?
2006-08-03 16:39:17 · 5 answers · asked by z a 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
In my opinion he's depressed and should seek some time of help. Often people who are depressed will sleep alot and/or drink alot.
The snipets are a way of getting attention. The problem is it's dragging you down. Most of us want to help, but don't go this alone or you will become frustrated and start to change to match your husband.
Push for him to seek help or to get out and change his habits, take a hobby, become active. If there are no children you can draw a line in the sand either he seeks help or it's over. Life is short, don't throw it away.
2006-08-03 16:49:36 · answer #1 · answered by Reality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...talk about opposites attracting. I think you two broke the mold on that one. Honey, it's not selfish of you to be a happy person. In all honesty, I think the world would be in a much better state if we could all learn to laugh a little more. Your husband is definately depressed and needs some serious help. He also needs to quit that job. I don't care what amount of money he's bringing in, it's not worth his life. Money doesn't make the world go around....people do. Get him some help, find him a new job and get him laughing again. Best of luck to you. OH....and don't stop being you. Depression is contagious.
2006-08-04 00:00:47 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know if anything triggered this? I knew a man who had similar symptons and he had a condition (do not recall the name). The best advice i can give is don't divorce. This is a critical point in your marriage..."You make your bed where you lay"...he needs you the most right now whether he realizes it or not. You should realize it too since the days you said your vows, in sickness and in health, and at the moment your husband sounds like he is battling some kind of sickness. Another thing is pray, pray, pray! "...pray for each other so that you may be healed.The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." James 5: 16
2006-08-04 00:30:52 · answer #3 · answered by Heidi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yhis may sound a bit harsh but you may want to tell him that if he doesn't look into getting help or else you will consider leaving him. He doesn't have to know if you are serious are not he just needs to understand that getting help is important to you important enough for you to consider leaving and that it should be important to him because what he does affects both of you.Pray about it and be strong...
2006-08-04 00:02:45 · answer #4 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no your not, in fact he'll use that i'll kill my slef angle to keep you there and in check, divorce him now, and give him a tase of american women at there best :) this is why marriage to foriegner is a tough sell
2006-08-03 23:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋