Why do you not like the idea of gay marriage?

Question

I'm not sure if I've ever stated my position on these pages about gay marriage and homosexuality in general, so I will do it now. First, let me say that I think the family unit is the single most important part of our culture. Anything that weakens the family, weakens us as a nation. In my opinion, gay marriage does exactly that so it makes sense why I am against it. I am also a Christian so I personally think homosexuality is wrong.

That doesn't mean that I hate gay people or even that I want to prevent them from participating in homosexuality. It simply means that I am against allowing them to call it marriage.

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Pope Benedict XVI, in his first clear pronouncement on homosexual "marriages" since his election, yesterday condemned same-sex unions as fake and "expressions of anarchic freedom" that threatened the future of the family.
The pope, who was elected in April, also condemned divorce, artificial birth control, trial marriages and free-style unions, saying all of those practices were dangerous for the family.
"Today's various forms of dissolution of marriage, free unions, trial marriages as well as the pseudo-matrimonies between people of the same sex, are instead expressions of anarchic freedom which falsely tries to pass itself off as the true liberation of man," he said.
Benedict spoke to families at Rome's Basilica of St. John Lateran on an issue that has become highly contentious around the world, particularly in Europe and the United States.

Answer 1

You have perfectly expressed the moral position of Christians everywhere !!

Answer 2

I'm for gay marriage. I think that by expressing hurtful bias against a segment of the population, we are hurting the family. How many children have been kicked out of their homes because they told their parents they were gay? How does that strengthen the family?

By ostrasizing our families' brothers, sisters, sons, daughters, aunts, uncles, nephews, nieces, etc., with a hurtful attitude that makes them second class citizens not entitled to the rights and priviledges given to the so-called heterosexual majority, we're instilling a fear that breaks up the family.

I believe that the argument that gay marriage "weakens the family" is an amoral tautology brought around by those trying to secularize biblical morality. The claim is that it weakens the family because a family is a man, his woman, and their children because that's what a family is. This tautology lacks any sense of conscience because it's hurtful and exclusionary against people who have done nothing wrong, other than violate the precepts of the religion in power.

The most important part of our government is freedom of religion. Legislating religious morality weakens the entire nation and persecutes minorities. Where is the freedom there?

I am against forcing churches or religions to sanctify gay marriage within their religion just as strongly as I am against churches and religions forcing the government to legislate against civil marriage. "Domestic partnership" is not enough for the simple reason that it excludes all of the rights legally granted to married couples. The wording isn't what's important, it's the law behind it.

Answer 3

I constantly hear that "marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman". Ok, so if marriage is so sacred, why is there a 60% divorce rate in the United States. That doesn't sound sacred to me. That sounds like people in the MAJORITY look at marriage as a throwaway item. If two people love each other and are willing to COMMIT for LIFE than I say let them. Two gay people being married will not bring down the institution of marriage. At least, it will not bring it down any farther than all the nice straight Christian people already have.

Answer 4

If you are so into supporting the "Family Unit" why are you wasting your time wanting to ban gay marriage?

Would not your time be better spent banning straight divorce? Since he divorce rate is well over 50% and many of those have kids involved, isn't that the greater threat?

As a Christian, are you aware Jesus never spoke a singe word about homosexuals, but he did say divorce (except for infidelity) and remarriage is adultery and therefore a sin? I'll bet your church would kick out a gay couple, and then turn around and perform a second marriage for a straight couple. (unless you are Catholic, at least they are consistant)

I guess I don't see how banning gay marriage will strengthen a straight couples marriage.

Answer 5

I completely and wholly agree with you on this.

Not only does it harm the family unit, but it harms our society and health, our nations moral altogether, and threatens humanity.

Soddom and Gomorah are the perfect example of a nation that accepted and lived Soddomy (hence where the word originated from) that is, gay sex up the wrong hole, (sorry so graphic, it's jsut SO disgusting and wrong!), because they were BURNED BY GOD for their wickedness and fornications and lasciviouness.

I say every gay should either repent and straighten up, or, here's the part that will throw everyone, should be put to death. It's a sickness, an illness that has been let go free and rampant. It's a disease. We should treat it as such.

Answer 6

Actually, gay marriage is an oxymoron. As marriage is a sacred union between man and women and to ultimately bear children. How exactly does a gay relationship do that? Don't give me the "Oh, we could have invitro or consensual relationship with a man or woman to have a child". Their own personal, physical relationship is not producing the child.

I also agree with you that it is sin. However, I would never tell anyone what they can and can't do consensually with another adult (with in reason, I am not talking about breaking the law). Once you are an adult, you have to come to your own conclusions. If you believe you are gay, I am okay with that. However, I would expect the same respect from their community. Don't push your morals down my throat by trying to rewrite the definition of what a marriage is just to suit your agenda.

Answer 7

I believe marriage is a sacred thing between a man and a woman that are in love. I also believe homosexuality is a choice and people that decide to practice that lifestyle don't really love each other, they just disagree with traditional beliefs and want to challenge society. I think by calling those types of unions "marriage" it would encourage more support for this kind of rebellion so more people would join the movement because they believe it is ok and acceptable. That's just my opinion and we live in about as free of a country as there's going to be and we can't do anything really about it because we would make people mad.

Answer 8

if you are a christian as am i then you will realize that one of the first things god tells you is to not judge that he will make that call when the time comes so really leave it up to him, as he knows whats best.....also remember a sin is a sin is a sin and lying, cheating, stealing, bad thoughts about girls etc. are a sin are they not? just like homosexuality, adultery etc are sins....all are the same in gods eyes so if you lie your sin looks exactly the same to god there are no ratings as to good or bad sin....the point being god is the only one who can judge anyone and because you asked i really don't think gay marriage is that big of an issue except of course for all the divorce attorneys. personally i think there are a lot more serious issues affecting the human race than gay but thats me. as for you personally thinking homosexuality is wrong that is ok for you, heck i think lying and cheating is wrong does that make me better or more right than you...no its my opinion and some people even christians think its ok to fudge a little bit on their taxes or when they leave a store and something was put in their bag that wasn't rung up they then think its free. so you see its difficult for me to cast stones at homosexuals when my own life isn't perfect, personally i am content to leave the judging up to god, he's better at it and who's to say he doesn't hate lying more than homosexuality....all i know is what he says he hates all sin and loves the sinner....btw i do want all to know besides being a christian i am also a conservative one and usually votes with the republican party....that should astound some of you and wake you up..nothing like seeing your bias shot all to pieces....

Answer 9

I have a question for you that I beg of you to answer.

Remember in school when you had to write a "thesis" paper and it required you to set out three main themes and to then support each of those with three other "back up" type of ideas or examples?

Could you please do even something 1/10th this ritualized and try to express how or why or by what ends a couple of homos living together or married to each other would threaten the family unit?

I will pay you for honestly giving it your best shot to try and logically and from your heart answer this question.

Thank you.

Answer 10

Once again you ask a question that really isn't a question. It simply provides you a chance to get on a soap box for one of your neoconservative rallying cries.

First, let me say that I, too, think the family unit should be the single most important part of our culture. Should be.

As a Christian, let me list at least seven other factors that I consider more threatening to the family in our contemporary culture than gay marriage: child and spousal abuse, the rising divorce rate, adultery, unprotected premarital sex, "latch-key" children and other failures to provide adequate child care, ageism and sexism, unplanned and/or untimely pregnancies, and the financial struggles of low-paid working class families. Correct any one of these problems, and you will do more to strengthen the "American family" than whatever you do to try to control the behavior of homosexual men and women, perhaps some ten percent of our population.

But do I want a constitutional amendment to address any of those conditions? No. (Legislation and appropriate law enforcement should address child and spousal abuse, but even that probably does not require a constitutional amendment.)

Do I want government defining (or defending) (or denying) my religous views of marriage and family? No. Read the Gospel of Luke carefully to see how the Christ felt about the alliance of authoritarian religionists and a powerful, but irreligious, government?.

We Christians must be persuasive about our views of family, and we must model the healthy family so clearly that others will want to follow our example. If Christian families are that happy, that healthy, and that satisfying (and mine certainly has been), why would others not want to emulate them? Mocking gay people and publicly harassing them, even refusing to acknowledge their nature and to permit their unions, will not persuade them to establish conventional marriage with members of the opposite sex. Nor will it have a significant effect on other relationships where the seven problems I listed earlier prevail.

What I cannot understand, if you do not hate gay people and do not want to prevent them from participating in homosexuality, why would you not want them to adopt those aspects of a conventional Christian union that they can? Fidelity, rejection of promiscuity, mutual responsibility, care-giving in sickness and old age . . . the list could go on. Or do you prefer that they limit their "participating in homosexuality" to restroom sex and one-night stands?

Personally, I would prefer that the government concern itself only with civil unions (sexual or asexual, heterosexual or homosexual), and let churches, synagogues, mosques, and other religious groups define and pronounce marriages as "holy unions." Truly separate church and state.

One other thing I do not understand about your question and soap-box talk: how did this get to be a major issue on the political scene today? Let's give our attention where we might actually reach consensus and do some good; for example, to world peace, the U.S. deficit and national debt, the deteriorating environment, poverty, health care, old-age care for the "baby boomers," discrimination and bias in society and the workplace, electoral reform, and--oh yes, one of the most important ones to me--civility and honesty in our communication, giving bipartisan efforts a chance to reemerge and perhaps, just perhaps, solve some of these controversial issues.

Answer 11

Just look at some of the answers given. Is it any wonder we are called a "peculiar people" ? The truth is no longer accepted as such. All men seek after their own lusts !