If someone says some pretty horrific things when they are drunk do you think they mean it?
2006-08-03 15:35:44 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Sociology
from my experience, people usually speak the truth when they're drunk. So whatever you heard, chances are its true so it could be hard to forgive. Cause when people are under the influence, its hard to think up lies. but its also easy to bs. depends on who it is. but i'd hardly forgive if it was something profane and disgusting or insulting. drunks should know how to act.
2006-08-03 15:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
People who have had too much to drink are impaired mentally and physically. From personal experience, I have said and done things when I was drunk that I had no idea about the next day. Did I mean to do these things? Of course not, I was not in my right mind state. This goes for most people. Depending on who you are. If you know this person well you should know whether or not the things said and done were actually true feelings of this individual. I know that when drunk people can get pretty mean and it can be hard to decipher what the person meant by they're actions. Take into mind that alcohol is poison. It messes you up every time you drink it. Things that are said I think should be forgiven but never forgotten, Keep in mind that if the problem persists then the person might not have a keen sense of who you are to them, this can be a problem and when this time comes.....if it comes you will have to choose what you want to do about it. Talk to this person with an open mind and explain your feelings clearly to them, let them know that you have been hurt. As well listen to them and what they have to say. Things have a mysterious way of working themselves out :)
Good luck with this!
2006-08-03 22:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by clever_intuition 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Human life is a systematic neural prescept simulation. There are sides with interests that are in conflict. Women and men are an example. Both are gambling and must play their cards with what they have been dealt. Someone drunk speaks from the heart or simply to get someone angry due to some true anger they have toward the person for something unjust they have done.
I say you should see what you have done to receive such a "horrific" response and analyze this "someone's" psychosis as much as possible. Then when you have retreived this information, use it to deal your cards. Either be nicer to this person in whatever way to get more positive feedback if you want to maintain friendship, or take another diplomatic approach that will address this problem.
2006-08-03 22:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by jack d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, the fact that are drunk really makes no difference on whether or not they are to be forgiven. Ideally, we should forgive everyone but in reality everyone has that one person that they'll never forgive.
Treat this as a normal issues of forgiveness. I will say, however, that the offender in question should not use his/her drunkenness as an excuse for their actions. They did what they did and it doesn't matter that they were drunk...the still did it and should seek forgiveness from you no matter what kind of influence they were under.
2006-08-03 22:56:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the person.. A lot of people can't handle their liquor...Ive been drunk many times and i have always been aware of what i am saying. I know other people who claim to blackout and do things they normally would not.. I myself think it is b.s. because of all the times of been drunk i always remembered everything...I guess everyone is different. Sometimes being drunk can be like truth serum and takes away the ability for some people to lie.. Other times it makes them annoyingly giddy. Some times it makes them horny, or they become the @sshole drunk.. I myself am the calm relaxed one.... It just depends on the person and how you know they are when they are drunk..
2006-08-03 22:46:00 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The issue is not what the drunk person means or does not mean. Forgivness is a personal action taken by you. You must decide how to live your own life and what you value. If you belive that we are all just simple humans who are allowed to make mistakes by our nature and by God then forgivness is easy.
2006-08-03 22:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by clevermonkey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
85% of the time... they didn't mean it.
10% of the time... they don't know if they meant some of it.
5% of the time... they did.
But now they should be sober, talk it over with them and tell them what a schmuck they were being and what they said, and if they meant it.
If they avoid eye contact with discussing and getting fidgety or just act completely different they were the 5%
Go from there on the forgiveness... or well how long it takes you to forgive.
2006-08-03 22:42:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say the truth comes out when you're drunk. I've said things that I didn't mean when I've been under the influence to make someone else mad, so it's possible they didn't mean it. See how they act when they're sober. If they are very apologetic, then I think it's safe to say it wasn't meant.
2006-08-03 22:40:37 · answer #8 · answered by Rexy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A definite woman question. Unfortunately you may be able to forgive him but you'll nevfer forget what he did (that's a guy thing) and if it happens again (and it will) then like all good women this episode comes into play to help batter him with. Either a) don't take life so seriously, or b) find a guy whio doesn't drink, doesn't smoke, goes to church, etc.
2006-08-03 22:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by TBor ROCKS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what they said. A lot of truth comes out in moments like that. Just listen to what they are saying and see if what they are saying makes any sense to you. Could be they have a hard time expressing their emotions. Doesnt make what they said right, but if ya wanna make it work try and listen. Then ask when they are sober
2006-08-03 22:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by sickpuppee82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋