i WAS dating a guy for about 5 months, and it was going good and he seemed genuine.... when we would fall asleep i would awake and he was having sex with me with me... this has happend more than once.. is that considered rape? im so embarassed and ashamed about it. i dont know what to do.
2006-08-03 15:17:18 · 15 answers · asked by lexi w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hi.....learn from the experience u've gained here. Never slp over night in a guy's place and moreover just u & him in the room. I wouldn't be surprised if he's having sex with u wen u're aslp.
But the question is y din u push him away wen u know dat he's already on top of u & he's enjoying himself?
Ask urself... is it dat u wanted to have sex wif him too? u doesn't want to spoil his mood while he's doin it ? or u r too afraid to reject him? if it's the 3rd ans dat u think u r going to gif... den i suggest u can break off wif him soon!
I'm a girl myself, if someone whom i love wants to make love with me i wouldn't reject as i've got myself prepared for the day. But if i'm not prepared i would haf just flare off and kick his balls!!!
It's all up to you! Noone can help u in it but just by giving u advice.But if he's not doing it only once den i can't see a reason y r u not turning him away during the 2nd time and i dun see a reason y aren't u telling him how u feel.
If he's someone who really loves u for wat u r he will except wat u say and stop wat he's doing. But if he doesn't stop wat he's doing den please break off wif him.He's just a JERK!
Cheers
Wonderland83
2006-08-03 15:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by wonderland83 2 · 2⤊ 4⤋
People on here often assume too much. You didn't say if you are in the habit of having sex with this guy all the time anyway. And if you were sleeping in bed together. If those two things are what was going on, then it is really hard to consider this any form of rape. People on here jump to conclusions way too much with their advice. Pay attention, people !!!
2006-08-03 22:26:40 · answer #2 · answered by Jon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you have nothing to feel ashame about!!! This is your body and if you do not like this then let him know that. He may think that it is okay to do what he is doing especially since you have not said nothing about it. And if he continues to do it let him know that you look up to Lorraina Bobbit (the lady that cut her husband pecker off). But seriously he can not understand how you feel about it then you need to to consider leaving him alone. Because that is a form of rape. Do not let anyone misuse your body it is the only one that you will have in your life and if you do not take care of it no one else will.
2006-08-04 00:42:05 · answer #3 · answered by princess4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
were you two lovers? and was he just deciding to have sex in middle of night.. ? the reason i ask is that it is natural for couples to approach one another in morning ,,or in middle of night. did you protest and he refused to stop. rape is forced.. and especially if you say no..or stop. however this guy was already in bed..and seemed to initiate sex with his girlfriend in the middle of the night. i am confused. and believe me in my profession i have dealt with rapist.had you been fighting. all the questions,,are because rape is a serious charge..and could ruin his life. however if that is what it was.. then by all means seek professional guidance. you also say this has happened more than once.. if you were upset over this the first time.. why did you allow him back in your bed..he should have been reported right then. these are questions you will be asked if you press charges.
2006-08-03 22:31:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well... In a way, he's a horny loser. 5 months really isn't a long time. I mean... considering a relationship should last until their 8th month or something, then they can sleep and do whatever. I think all he wants to do is get in your pants and like leave. Find another man, he's just looking for sex.
2006-08-03 22:26:32 · answer #5 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is definetly a form of rape. You were sleeping, you were not in a state to consent. You have nothing to be ashamed of, you did nothing wrong, he did.
2006-08-03 22:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say it is considered rape. You never considered to it and you never stood up for yourself, so he kepy doing it because he feels like you are a sucker and you will let him get away with it.
2006-08-03 22:22:06 · answer #7 · answered by brainznbooty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
assuming you are of legal age; it's not rape since you were dating him and appears you were willingly having sex with him. As far as the sex act, it's normal....he probably was excited doing it with you...maybe not as much as you, but that's probably what happened. Assuming you did not get hurt, move on...don't dwell on it.......
2006-08-03 22:28:44 · answer #8 · answered by IamwhoIam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok listen in eveyones life problems come but we ve to face it some how n u need to tell someone someone how undersatnd u...dont try to tell who doest understand u coz they might take a advantage of u so just be normal n tell to someone go ahead best of luck
2006-08-03 22:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by matt p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its embarassing and you are confused but this is something you have to tell someone you trust.
This guy is sick and you don't want him to do this to someone else.
You can stop this guy and his perverted ways now.
2006-08-03 22:21:53 · answer #10 · answered by CJ B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋