How do I get back my confidence?

Question

I didn't have it when I was younger, but then I really build it up during high school and college. Then I was depressed, and find that I lost it again. Well, yea, I pretty much lost it. I kind of have faith in myself, but I wouldn't say I'm confident.

Answer 1

Good q.

I think its a sign of the times.

Maybe move away and start over.

Answer 2

I'm not sure what has happened to cause you to loose it, but it could be the people you're around or maybe a job you're having difficulty with. It can be difficult, but take a look at possible causes. That would be a start. See if you have negative "self talk" like, I'm not attractive, or I can't do such and such like others,or I've not accomplished certain things by now. This can often be changed just by the way you talk to yourself. I'm in counseling for various things, and one thing they help me do is see the positive things about myself. I once had to make a card that listed 5 positive characteristics I have, and had to carry it around in my purse and read it several times a day, or even when I would feel down. Even if it wasn't about myself. Another help is the Bible. It's full of verses that tell us how special and loved we are, and that we are precious to God, even though we're not perfect. That's just a few ideas off the top of my head. It does take some regular work each day. Good luck, and God bless!

Answer 3

Well...you just have to build it up again! You were on the right course!
Speak positive things to yourself continually when ever you are tempted to put yourself down. You may fall off the horse a number of times, but you know what you do? You get right back on! You keep at it, and keep at it until you are once more confident in yourself.
Put yourself around confident people that will inspire you. Hang around them on purpose and it will rub off on you! It has too!

Get books on the psychology of being confident or something like that at your local bookstore.

We all tend to be less confident in ourselves at one time or other but there is always a remedy for the situation. You just have to find what works for you because no two people are alike. I hope that some of the things i mentioned help you out! Good luck!

Answer 4

Take a break from your schedule. Spend some time (8 - 10 days) with friends (not family) away on a vacation with no connection to your profession or studies. Do some adventure sport. Write diary in the evening. Make a list of your achievements and how it helped others. Do some gardening and other creative work.

Answer 5

I've 'walked a mile in your shoes'... and it's not fun. When I was selling a popular makeup at home parties, the top consultants held meetings on a weekly basis. One of their best teachings was to 'fake it 'til you make it'. Essentially it means to force yourself into being confident (faking) until you have all the confidence you need ('til you make it). It worked wonders for me. When one lacks self confidence, it usually means that one cares what others think about you. As long as you are doing the 'right' things, who cares what others think??! Right now I'm at a point in my life where I have stopped wearing makeup, no longer color my hair (very little gray), take care of my skin - just to show you how my self confidence has grown. I'm accepted and loved any way I am because it's what inside a person that really counts. I wish you all the best and remember: fake it 'til you make it!

Answer 6

DO NOT do something you can succeed in easily. That is false confidence because when you are presented with a difficult task, you might find it a little too strenuous.
Instead, do something that is difficult to achieve. Go back to school and get a degree, learn a new skill, or just push yourself to run the longest run you have ever run before.
The only way to achieve greatness is to do great things.

Answer 7

Go back to college and get another degree. Passing classes with a 4.0 is always a confidence booster for me. If you need to feel beautiful again, exercise and belly dancing classes will help with that, at least it helps me. I tend to find confidence in knowing things that other people don't commonly know. I can secretly feel smarter than everyone else around me when I know facts of history they don't and it makes me feel good... if it happens too often, then I start to get cocky so its a double bladed axe or sword if you prefer Arthurian legends over Viking legends.

Ultimately, become smarter, learn new things, challenge yourself. Works for me.

Answer 8

I have to say I think you need to ease up on yourself. I'll bet you have more faith and direction in your decisions than you use to and maybe you are not seeing all that you have accomplished in that beautiful package you make up today. Strength of character comes with time and confidence is in its' back pocket. Believe in yourself - take a deep breath and go forward a day at a time. Your confidence will grow.

Answer 9

same thing happened with me

Im in a military family and as I got older, I realized that people basically hung out with people they've known their whole lives since the average american doenst move around all that much or if they do .. its house to house ..not country to country!!!

but anyway .. I looked around and realized that I was kinda loosing my touch with people .. and it made me lose confidence and get totally depressed.

What you should do is change something that you dont like about yourself ... like if you dont like your hair color .. change it to whatever you want ... then you'll be a whole new person with a whole new look and everything.. this also works with changing the style of clothes and everything ... just become the person that you want to be .. then just go out and do the same things you did in highschool and college and go out and meet new people ..

I have found that its a huge confidence booster when you can convince someone that you dont know that you are cool enough to be thier friend. ^_^

good luck

Answer 10

Daily positive self talk and affirmations help build self esteem and confidence.. also little accomplishments work wonders in improving your self out look... by complimenting and being kind to others as well as set goals in the form of 2-3 important things you want to accomplish with your day you will slowly regain confidence in your ability to navigate life and succeed..best of luck to you.

Answer 11

i typed it in but i deleted it let me type it in again with out the begining
1:hobbie, somethen to take your mind off of things can help
2:ooh i cant remember it im sorry,
there is bad things two like takeing drugs some are made for things like that dont use them only for a after last thing you know the its the last thing left after that or you can do as i do and and look at the world like this:nothing matters only people who matter are the ones who are nice to you or to your firends and a firend is not a firend if thay like to use you or hate you and if some one dies if you dont like them you dont have to cry about it because thay never would of cryed for you but that doesnt give you the right to be mean about it even if thay are the people who make this world the way it is:a one way trip to hell do not become who thay are or you will be just another person with no feeling thay may leave with fun and torment but if you wont to stand out and make a deference you have to fight for who you are but not to the point where no one can return i may not be a very nice person some times but to the people who care or to the people who i have not meeten i em nice [my before one was longer and was better im sorry i had to mess up and ereace it]