Why is love so elusive?

Question

Sometimes the heart leads you where the body cant follow.

Is the love one feels as a teenager the same kind of love you have as an adult?

Answer 1

I think we often mistake initial attraction with love which is not reasonable. It is based on looks, beautiful eyes, the outside of a person, and chemistry. Hormones can go wild but that will not lead to a love that will be reciprocated or one that will build into something lasting. It's just a sexual attraction. We use the term "falling in love." I've found that falls end up in injuries. Love that will last needs time to grow. What is "love at first sight"? How can you love someone you don't know anything about? So initial attraction has to have time; time to know if the person is unattached; looking for a relationship; is interested in the same kinds of activities and faith you are. Are they honest, trustworthy, kind, gentle, loyal?
And too many times people think the relationships of novels, TV, and movies is the way real life is. Bah Humbug!! That's not a reasonable expectation. It's not reality; it's fantasy!
When the real world hits with bills, jobs, car troubles, ill health, crying children, unpleasant in-laws, and ingrown toenails, real love isn't just one long romantic night in the bed. It's some hard work and dedication to keep it working well when the road is bumpy. And then there's a lot of truth in this old saying: What initially attracts later irritates.
And one last thing that doesn't seem fair but it's the way life is:
It takes two people to make a couple. It only takes one to want out.

Answer 2

Love: a constituent of human essence. Love of self is love for self is love for other, for love all are true because that is love. Any other contrary fact, it is not love.

Knowing Love itself is self knowledge that rises above that which was. What was you is now past you, different. But if love is not differentiated in abstraction, then what guide is there for knowing the love from another. It is not enough that you love, but to know what it is as certainly as knowing all other constituents of human essence: psychology.

Here in summary form: Legend of symbols:

'+' = 'a joining', 'a physical contact', 'will to communicate', generally positive, not negating but positing, positioning, proposing...

'-' = a negation, taking a part, destruction, removal, exclusion, ....

Love without specifying relationship nor act specification: + + + +

Sexual activity: - + + + (the reason for the minus "-" is the breaking down for resistence in the form anxiety (drugs, alcohol, ideology), loveless sex has this uncertainty whereas love filled sexual activity has no such uncertainty or resistence)

Sadism: - - + + (this form of aggression has a psychological component that may described spiritual, superstitious, ideological. One '+' is for this 'spiritual component' and the other '+' the will or urge to get at the victim)

Aggression in the form hostility, anger: - - - + (the pure will to destroy, uncluttered with ideology, higher ideal, the unreality of superstition or supernaturality, no abstraction is possible, it is negated. The last '+' is the physical excertion upon the object, the sole but very limited contact with reality, the victim)

defense: - - - - (the will to escape danger, there is no component for contact, the negation desired is total and instantaneous, immediate, to flee, to avert the senses from the threat, ...)

Answer 3

Love is considered elusive for it can't be forced but whether or not someone loves us is totally at the will and control of another person. We can love, its of our choosing but love not returned eventually fades and just goes away. Love returned is what awe all wish and hope for.

Answer 4

Because people love things which are only temporary.

Love peeks here, and there, but only for a while, and then it is gone.

Paramahansa yogananda says, that love is this way, because love wants us to Love Love alone.

Then instead of finding love here or there, for a while, one will find love in all hearts, and everywhere around them, because love, like God, is omnipresent.

When our hearts and minds are closed to love, we have conditions on where it can be and where it cant. But when we Love Love, we ask nothing of it, we Love Love for its own sake.

Inside people, we see Love, and we love it. We want nothing from them, and nothing from Love, only to Love it, for its own sake.

So as long as one thinks love is this thing, or that thing, or that i love this person or that one, then love will go, to show you that Love Loves Love, not simply a person or thing or place or animal, all of which are temporary; in time, they pass. Love is forever.

Answer 5

why money is so elusive.
teenage love is driven only by emotion.
adult love is, too, driven by emotion, but is more matured. adults consider lots of things before falling into love, not only the beauty.
one condition of adult love is a bulging out pocket in Men.

Answer 6

I don't think that love is all that elusive. I think that we have the wrong idea about what love actually is. And because our thinking is wrong, we think that love is rare.

Answer 7

Because man is inherently selfish. Love for the self prevails over love for others.

Answer 8

is it ? you can find love everywhere ,just look around and see an old couple holding hands, a pet dog looking up at you when you call, a person who sees all this will attract love from his/her surroundings ,the right partner will come to you soon.ultimate love is when you give yourself to GOD as you know HIM.have faith.

Answer 9

Love is like a bird. Hold it too loose, it will fly away. Squeeze it too hard, you will destroy it.

Same goes for gripping the golf club.

Answer 10

love is a constant what is elusive is our understanding of its requirements and thus the manifestation of its reality.