at what age would you consider their feelings seriously?
serious replys only
2006-08-03 14:48:21 · 22 answers · asked by jesse b 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I would definitely accept my child.....no matter what. Transgendered, bisexual, gay, lesbian....even if they turned out to be straight! lol.
I have a dear friend who is trans. FTM.....and he's really well into the change. He knew ever since he was very young that his insides did not match his outsides. I know another person, another dear friend, who is MTF. She transitioned back in the early nineties....late eighties. She also remembers feeling from a very young age that something was not quite right.
Here's the thing. You ask when I would consider their feelings seriously. If I didn't consider their feelings seriously from the cradle, there would probably be something wrong with me as a parent. I don't have kids, but I imagine that's how I would feel.
I would allow my children the ability to express themselves freely. I wouldn't let them be rude, or inappropriate in public, but I would always let them say the things they needed to say, and express themselves in any way that was creative and conducive to their inner growth.
I don't know if any of that makes sense. I just know that if my child said to me, at age 4 or 41, hey....mom. Something isn't jiving here. I would then try to do anything I could to help them figure it out. And then do what they felt was right for them. Children are their own beings. They are not extensions of their parents, and should not be treated as such.
2006-08-03 15:08:33 · answer #1 · answered by Autumn BrighTree 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very good question. Just recently 5 yr old child was admitted to school and being raised as a girl. The child's parents are supportive. Oh amazing!!And the school is cooperating. I just hope the little girl is not identified to the public.
I don't have children of my own, so I have to imagine, but as a decent human being, with some common sense, I would look into the situation as soon as I learned what was happening.
2006-08-05 22:12:50 · answer #2 · answered by reme_1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, ur kid is still ur kid, it doesn't matter what shape or gender they are or choose to be, that's the beauty of unconditional love, plus hating ur kid for it isn't going to help they are gonna have enough problems with society without me adding to them, plus having loving and excepting parents will make the transition easier. I would take it seriously at any age, transgendered ppl often say they knew from early childhood they where different. I wouldn't go crazy though and make them change how they dressed at five, but I'd give them room to grow and learn and enough education on the matter to make their choice whatever it may be.
2006-08-03 15:00:55 · answer #3 · answered by bobatemydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feelings are valid at any age. The DSM-IV mentions guidelines for treating gender issues for people of any age. The only requirement is that you're old enough to actually be able to communicate, which it looks like you're able to do. Personally, I'd take them to my therapist who focuses on gender issues. She's doing a great job at treating me for my gender issues.
2006-08-04 06:41:02 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'd be kinda hypocritical if I didn't. Here I am bitchin' because my family is acting funny since I came out of the closet. It'd be real stupid of me not to accept my child regardless of who they are. It might be hard at first, only because I know this is not an easy world we live in and he/she would have a hard time at first, especially coming to terms with who they were, but I would still love and accept them forever.
2006-08-03 15:09:43 · answer #5 · answered by Agent Double EL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest, I would love my child without exceptions... unconditional love. Now if they wanted a gender change, I wouldn't say no, however, know how hard it can be being different, I would ask them if they were prepared for the verbal abuse that may be thrown at them. I would support them in any adventure they embark on.
2006-08-03 19:59:35 · answer #6 · answered by i_am_nathan_2002 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I have never considered having kids so It wouldn't matter.
2006-08-03 17:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by Cymalon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i tryed to tell my family at age 3 so i think that if they are able to say it and know what they are talking about then listen to them
2006-08-07 02:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by crazzykid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I would. They are sill my childeren and I will care for them like a good parent should.
2006-08-03 20:21:42 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well honestly even though im gay, i would accept her/him but i would be really depressed becasue of the struggles they would have to go through in life
thinking about it kinda makes me wanna cry
2006-08-03 15:11:05 · answer #10 · answered by Darmcc15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋