mean it how you said it? I have done this a couple of times I feel so crappy about the stuff I say, I can't even belive that some of the things came out of my mouth, what makes us go so freaky when we are mad at our men, or is it just me who is a pysco?
2006-08-03 14:42:41 · 15 answers · asked by T agent 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, i have! but, usually, they have done or said something to get you to that extreme! don't feel bad, just learn to walk away and talk calmly about the situation!
2006-08-03 14:48:05 · answer #1 · answered by scott's wifey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, congratulations for recognizing something you need to work on.
I did the same thing for awhile, and then I realized men are just as fragile as women, and we are better at the cutting insults than they are.
You need to stop in the middle of an argument and say "I'm doing my best to compose myself, because I don't want to say something that I don't mean. Give me a few minutes." Walk away, take 10 deep breaths, and decide how much you really want to risk cutting him off at the knees, doing permanent harm.
I try to ask myself, "Is this a hill I want to die on? Do I have to win this battle? Am I about to say something that I don't mean, just to make a point?"
Don't make a permanent scar over a temporary argument.
Find another place to vent, so that you can say all the MEAN stuff before you try to work out the problem.
I use a journal. I can get in my journal when he is not around, and call him all the meanest names, "yell" (all capital, write harder) and throw my fit onto paper where I'm not hurting anyone. I think you could find other ways, too. This is just my way.
I hope you figure out the best way for you.
Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will cut deeply and scar forever.
2006-08-03 22:06:18 · answer #2 · answered by sexymommyof3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have lashed and I have meant it. When his lazy *** is laid up until noon and I got sour I meant it. When he left the front door open around 2:00am and my daughter was laying beside him any old person could have come in, or she could have gone out, I meant it. When I have to look at his bowls in the toilet everyday cause he can't be bothered to flush the toilet after his nasty *** sits on it I meant that too. I have lashed and I feel justified. When he calls me a psycho that's his problem. When he tells me that I am cheating on him and blah blah blah when I am only out doing the laundry, I lash and I know who the psycho really is. Yes I lash. Next time I won't lash. I'll just leave his worthless butt behind!
2006-08-03 21:54:07 · answer #3 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'v gotten really mad too and really regretted things I said. you need to try to control that because take it from me it can cause some real problems. Not all men will stand for it. It's emotional abuse. I'm not sure why I do it, but as I get older I do it less and less. It also really helped that I had a boyfriend a few years ago whom I loved with all my heart, I lashed out at him twice and he didn't give me any more chances. Since then, I'v really straightened up and am careful. You need to learn more impulse control.
2006-08-03 21:49:51 · answer #4 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes when you get so pissed off with your guy and anything just comes out from your mouth. It happened to me before too but you gotta think carefully before saying because it might hurt the other party if it is not so serious case. Remember that words that you say might blow up everything.
2006-08-03 22:05:07 · answer #5 · answered by zoukgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep,me to ,Ive done it,Its a great way ove venting,Look up the word venting,that's all it was.However i must say every time Ive got to the point Ive vented and said evil things they soon become the ex.He'd be a fool to take it if hes a nice fella and if hes a **** wipe who desperately needed it ,well give him heaps baby and then drop him like its hot.MrsP
2006-08-03 21:55:40 · answer #6 · answered by mrs_peeved 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Done that and glad did it as it was coming .
No its better this way. you dont have pent up anger against that person becoz ultimately in the end it will depress us.So better lash out.you cant keep bottled up feelings .it will only harm us.
its not unique to women only it should be the same with any person.
2006-08-03 22:44:07 · answer #7 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it......you are psycho, honey! You need counseling....and fast! Your life is going to be miserable unless YOU change and you and going to continue to hurt a lot of people. Don't even go there with advise of "just apologize and don't do it again".....That will not work. You need professional help. Either change or accept the consequences of your actions and don't complain when no one wants to associate with you!!!
2006-08-03 21:49:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who do things like that don't think before they speak...for every action there is a reaction...you might tell him sorry after wards but if you think you aren't cutting him, leaving scars, your very much mistaken...Instead of lashing out..Stop! think about what you want to say...if it was said to you, how you'd react, how you'd feel. Does it have relevance to what's going on? I believe people who have to resort to name calling do so because they don't have the intelligence to state their case...
2006-08-03 21:54:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger management will help. If you can't control your temper in the moment of anger you'll be sorry for a thousand days. Words can hurt pretty hard.
2006-08-03 21:53:09 · answer #10 · answered by Oneplanet 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋