2006-08-03 14:38:38 · 15 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you don't love each other, then don't get married because you think it will resolve anything, because it won't. You both need to raise this child still and give it the most love that you can. BOTH OF YOU need to support the child, psychologically, emotionally, and financially...
2006-08-03 14:43:55 · answer #1 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a woman, but if I was a guy, in this day and age and I got a girl pregnant but I didn't love her, I wouldn't marry her, because that way youre dstroying 3 lives. I would just offer to pay child support and have visitation rights with your child but each of you go on with your own lives. Many people nowadays do this. Don't marry if you don't love. we're not in the 50's anymore.
2006-08-03 21:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should never marry someone just because they are pregnant. I am pregnant and was engaged but felt it wasn't right for me. I would rather raise my baby alone then live life unhappy. Just be a man and tell her that you do not love her enough to marry her now, that in time if you grow to, then you will, but you will not marry someone just because of a baby. Often times, young women think that a baby will keep the man,but they need to grow up and realize it actually makes it harder and runs the relationship. You will live a life of regret and then blame her for it and in time grow to despise her. Be there for your baby and for her while she is pregnant, be her friend and that will be enough.
2006-08-03 21:47:08 · answer #3 · answered by chihuahuas2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Another reason why girls should not have sex with any Tom, Dick and Harry( before marriage) who don't actually love them.
You need not marry her. After-all, she is also having a fling with you. She knows you are not married to her and haven' t even proposed to her and she willingly have sex with you. She is taking the risk by not having protected sex and she has to face the consequences for it. No agreement or contract was signed that you had to marry her if she gets pregnant. This is the price she has to pay for having unprotected sex with someone who is not married to her. If you don't want to marry her, she will have to abort the child. If she wants to keep it, then she shouldn't make you bear the cost of it's upbringing cos you don't want the child anyways. Not wanting to marry her means you don't want to be her husband nor the father of her child.
2006-08-04 04:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on the girl.. if she wants you in her life then you should consider it. Its always easier to raise a baby with both the mother and father. Of course, there are plenty of couples not together and they raise perfectly fine children but its always easier. It is your responsibility and you should committ to the mother and the child, because its not fair that the child has to suffer for your mistake. Although, if you don't love her at all then getting married would be the worst idea because it would only end in divorce and thats not fair either. I think you should follow your heart. good luck
2006-08-03 23:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by Christina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to follow your heart. I married because she was pregnant and it didn't work. We had the most wonderful daughter and she is 17 now. Up until she was two and a half years old the daught and I were inseparable. now we hardly see each other. Think long and hard. This will affect the rest of your lift. Good luck, and best wishes .
2006-08-03 21:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by krash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think getting married because of a baby is a very stupid reason to get married. My daughter is pregnant, due in Jan. 3 weeks before she found out she was pregnant her and her b/f broke up. I asked her if she was going to get back together with him...she said...No, we broke up for a reason..that hasn't changed......I happen to agree with her...
2006-08-03 22:07:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, never. It's not worth it. The child will be fine growing up understanding that it didn't work out more then they will ever understand their mother and father fighting day and night.
That is the reason divorce is so rampant....getting married for kids.
Never
2006-08-03 23:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Sarah Bear ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a female, i wouldn't marry someone just because of pregnancy,
my ex asked me to marry him once he found out he had knocked me up (we were together at time), needless to say i laughed in his face and said that if and when i get married i would like it to be for the right reason!! ie in love not due to me being knocked up!
made right decision as he dumped me as soon as sprog came out....
2006-08-05 10:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by sinnedfairy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but I would pay child support. Why ruin her life and the child's?
2006-08-03 22:00:23 · answer #10 · answered by doesitmatter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋