Is a guy who cheats before marriage more likely to do so after marriage.?

Answer 1

Maybe not, but probably yes. If he has turned away from a partner during a problem, and looked ouside the relationship instead, in the past, then how can you deny what his true colors are? You can't change or "fix" him, so don't even try.
If he has acknowledged what a fooish mistake it was, then he may be ok. If he can answer "why was that the wrong thing to do?" IN HIS OWN WORDS, WITHOUT HESITATION (and see it from someone else's perspective, acknowledge how it made them feel, admit to his feelings of inadequacy and failure,) AND SAY THESE THINGS WITHOUT TAKING THE TIME TO "COME UP" WITH SOMETHING THAT HE THINKS YOU WANT TO HEAR. If he can do that, he might have learned his lesson.

Men stray when they feel inadequate, or like a disappointment to their partners. It gives them the ego boost and feeling of power to have something on the side. They are essentially saying "s*crew you, I'll just take care of myself". It is their way of passive-agressively "getting back at you" because they feel less powerful than you.
It would take too much courage for them to say "Honey, you do so much and have so much success, I feel emasculated, and I need to have my ego stroked, my self-esteem needs a boost, and I care enough about our relationship to come to you for help". No, that would be too scary to say.
So they often cheat.
It's the same thing as cheating on a test, as opposed to studying for it. Studying takes effort and courage that you will learn and retain the material. "The cheater cheats himself" becuase they have no confidence in themself.
Men don't like to feel vulnerable. Being intimate (beyond sex) and being honest means revealing emotions and being open and vulnerable to someone. They also have fragile egos kind of like the way womens' self esteem is related to their appearance and the approval of others). They are "trained" to NOT ask for help, to not show their emotions, and to be powerful and manly.
Be his soft place to fall, but don't put up with dishonesty or disloyalty. Stroke his ego and praise his accomplishments, make him feel important and appreciated, but don't put up with infidelity. You deserve more.

Answer 2

This is for both men and women, If someone is so stupid to think that marriage is going to stop a person from cheating, then they're dumb and a fool.

I'm not saying once a cheater, always a cheater, but if you're cheating before marriage, then chances are you'll cheat after as well...

Answer 3

Yes. A man (or a woman for that matter) is on their best behavior while they are dating. Cheating, like Lying, abuse, and other problems only escalate after people are committed and in marriage. Look for a man who shares your morals, and doesn't "strike out" on the big issues. Cheating is unacceptable. One time, you are out. Marriage is built on trust. If you can't trust, you will be MISERABLE. I know you have heard stories of men who grill their wives about where they've been, who they are with etc. Or women who log the mileage on their husband's car, and if he has 20 extra miles, well they go crazy. This is a horrible existence. for both people.

My husband and I share an infinite amount of trust. In fact, as I am sitting here typing, he is out with a friend of his who happens to be a girl. She respects our bond, and he is 100% committed to me. I am not even concerned about it. After 11 years, I know he is faithful, and never doubt. Similarly, I have been known to meet guy friends for lunch, or go see them when I'm in their neighborhood just to chat. I never do or say anything inappropriate, and neither do they, because they respect my commitment, and so do I.

Don't make the mistake of believing "I've changed, for you!" or "I'm so sorry, it will never happen again." You just say, " I know it won't happen again, because I'm outa here!!"

Don't marry a guy that you are already disappointed in. It doesn't get better.

Answer 4

If a man cheats he will cheat even more after he is married. Some men do it because they are insecure and need to feel that they are desired by other women and other men do it, just for sport. Then there are men that just like the excitement and are selfish only caring about self gratification. Men seek QUALITY, while boys seek QUANTITY.... they need to grow up first.... My ex is a pro football player and he made 11 kids with 8 women, while married. Some men are just pigs

Answer 5

Of course women!When they cheat before marriage want to do it more just for the rush that they wont get caught.

Answer 6

OH HELL YA!!! mine did it to me he cheated about 2 times before we married and big time year and half in the marriage he left me with my 18month old and 4 month old kids for his coworker and even got an apartment with her.but we got back together and thats just another long story.

Answer 7

I believe in second chances, everyone deserves one. But it also depends on the individual themself. If he is the type of guy you are constantly keeping tabs on because you have trust issues then walk away. You do NOT need to spend the rest of your life keeping tabs on someone. Worrying every minute if your man is at work, out with friends, at the grocery story...wondering what he is doing. Move on if this is what your dealing with.

Answer 8

YES! If you are a partner to his cheating, then he has your permission to do it again because you knew what you were getting. If he cheated on you, then run anyway. He is so out of control with his appetites that he will just use you. If he cheats again, it's not entirely his fault that you were hurt because you knew that he has a history of cheating.

Answer 9

well this iws a tough one. i know a guy who cheated on his girlfreind and once they got married has been faithful ever since. that once a cheat always a cheat is bull. people do grow up and grow out of the immatture part of their life and realize what they have, but on the other hand he or she can still do it. good luck.

Answer 10

I think so yes, if it's to the same girl he cheated on. But if he's cheated on someone before you and that person left him, or made him pay for his crimes then he probably learned his lesson.