Signing over Parental Rights?

Question

My child's father recently told me that he was considering signing over his parental rights because I want him to make a steady visitation schedule and we need to agree on his financial contribution to his child. If he signs over his rights does he have the responsibility of paying current and/or back child support? Also does he have any right to see my child? I want him to be around but only if he is willing to come around on a regular basis and he's willing to help take care of her. So far he doesn't want to do either. I've offered to let her stay with him for days but he always has something to do. I've offered for him to pick her up everyday when he gets off work and see her for a few hours then he can take her to daycare when I go to work or bring her back to my house on my off days. He again always has something to do. My only expectations for him are that he sees her regularly, provides some financial support, and he does not try to have all his visits in my home.

Answer 1

If he's not going to be a real father to her, let him sign off...you'll be glad you did when you find someone to marry who will be a good father for her.

Answer 2

This is similar to other questions in the past. As far as his financial contribution, unless you don't want any money, and never ask for government help, he has no real choice in the matter. If you are i the US, contact your local Child Support Recovery Unit and they give completely free help - but ask first. They tell him what he has to pay, he has no choice in the matter.

So, signing away parental rights really doesn't get him out of financial obligations unless you have a new husband who will adopt the baby.

As far as the right to see the baby, CSRU does not take care of that. If he wants the right to see the baby, he has to get an attorney and sue you for that right. He needs to know if he does, c/s will be ordered as part of the deal.

This is another case where 2 adults and a child are going to suffer in the long term because of the common belief that no one is harmed by sexual activity.

I wish I could hit him. Time with a child of your own is by far the most rewarding part of one's life. He will never know that, will he?


But, then you probably can't really give a good explanation why you made a baby with him, can you? Do think this over before you do it again with another bum -- in my opinion, he is a bum.

Answer 3

If he signs over his rights you have full custody and he no longer has the privilege of coming and going as he pleases.As for the financil issue,yes he still has to pay child support or you can take him to court and the governement will dock his pay.
But from another perspective if he does not want to be an active part of your child's life he shuld not be near her,she does not need to have a negative view on men.So if he really does want to see her,lay down some ground rules;he has to take her out;he has to spend week-ends with her;he has to stop being too busy for his own flesh and blood!

Answer 4

Speaking as a father and an orphan, your little girl deserves better. I was orphaned at 1.5 years of age because my parents didn't want me or my older brothers. I know that it won't be easy but your little girl needs devotion.

On the day that each of my kids were born I made a promise. "I will allways be there for you." It's a promise I WILL keep as long as I draw breath.

All you need is the proper plumbing to be a "father or mother" but it takes heart to be a "MOMMY or DADDY.

If he is completely unwilling to be a DADDY then go ahead and make him pay support but don't let him see her (if that is legally allowable.)

You need to talk to an Attorney on the legal issues (in person not on-line) You need advice and in the legal sense you need a Lawyer you can put your eyes on. But if you need someone to listen and give his honest opinion then feel free to drop me an email.

Answer 5

He can sign away his rights (visitation, etc). He can't sign away his responsibilities (child support, etc).