My bf and i recently broke up, but i still like him a little. i told by best friend and she was talking about how much of a loser he was! then the next week, he asked her out and she said yes!! >:( I was so pis.sed! How do I talk to both of them? How do I react? Should I be mad, happy, sad, all of the above? HELP!
2006-08-03 13:54:46 · 23 answers · asked by Im miss tatum 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
move on, there are other guys and other friends in the world, better ones!
2006-08-03 18:46:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 12⤊ 2⤋
She wasn't much of a friend if she backstabbed you. You would need to think about how you feel in this situation. Technically, you can't be mad at her, you were no longer dating him. She may have been saying all these things about him to try and make you feel better over the breakup. But she may also have been interested in him. If the breakup was mutual, then you need to move and let them find out if they are good for each other. Sometimes it is hard for friends when friends date and break up. You don't want to take sides but then you feel you have to. Get involved in other things and maybe you will meet someone who is more in tune with you and be a better match. Don't worry about the ex and your friend. Let them date. But be there for her when and if they break up.
2006-08-03 21:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by mom of girls 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it at all. You broke up with him, your friend said things to you to appease you, then your ex asked your friend out and she accepted. if anything, tease her and show her your the bigger person and be like a duck and the situation is water...it will roll right off your back. Life is too short to worry about the faults of your friends. Just be you and go on. Be friends with both of them unless you are not telling everything like you still adore this guy. Just show them you really could give a $#it and it wouldn't be worth your time or trouble to show them it upsets you. I bet there is a guy somewhere real close right now waiting for the right time to ask you out. So pay attention to the seeker and forget about the creeper! Good Luck to you
2006-08-03 21:04:38 · answer #3 · answered by jkcmr2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry this happened to you.
No one can tell you how to feel and you don't need to justify your feelings.
I do notice, though, that your anger and pain seem to be geared more towards your friend for saying yes, and not so much towards the guy for asking. Personally, I think the guy should have asked you if it would be cool FIRST and IF you said yes, then you could've told your gf that you'd be ok if she said yes.
If you decide you do want to talk to them, my first question to each of them would be "Why didn't you tell me about it first?", to be followed by "What's the rush?" I'm not saying they couldn't have eventually dated, but only waiting a week? - that's pretty harsh.
I feel for you.
2006-08-03 22:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by messageboardjunkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't take the situation so seriously. You obviously don't like this guy anymore. Your friend does (and did), and said yes knowing that she wouldn't be stealing him away from you.
Take all of your former feelings for this guy out of your mind. When you see him, only think of him as ur best friend's bf. Don't think of her as a traitor because she likes this guy and had the courtesy to hold back her feelings while you were going out. Be happy for her, and don't even care about this guy.
2006-08-03 21:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could see being very upset, but you are broke up with the guy and I would talk to my friend and ask her why she is dating a looser means that's what she said he was.
2006-08-03 21:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by auntkarendjjb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be pissed. but then again you cant help who you like and if they like eachother then what can you do. i do believe in the never date your friends exes but sometimes theres just no telling who you have a connection with. talk to your friend and see what went down because it seems like theres more to the story if he asked her out after just a week. [they might have not just had a relationship after you guys ended things] but like i said just talk to her you dont need to talk to him.
2006-08-03 21:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She obviously wasn't thinking at all about you when she decided to go out with him. That would leave me questioning the friendship. Talk with her about it, let her know how you feel and then she what she has to say....
2006-08-03 20:58:31 · answer #8 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, they aren't right esp. your best friend. thats pretty messed up if you ask me. but you need to move on or at least show them your having fun. smile and laugh and just make it totally obvious [even if you don't feel happy and giggly]. but try it and see what happens.
2006-08-03 21:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by gotbubblez74 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit them both down at the same time and talk to tem or you could just et her back and try to break them up :-)
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2006-08-03 20:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by dezzynicolaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of the above.
2006-08-03 20:58:01 · answer #11 · answered by Hi T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋