We met each other in school but quickly found out our supposed relationship had hit a wall. Even though my sister has a boyfriend, she goes behind our parents backs to date him and I'm not comfortable doing that. My 'friend' and I feel that we should wait until we are both comfortable about expressing our feelings instead of lying to our family. But I'm afraid that if we wait, we might lose whatever fe feel for each other and go different directions.
2006-08-03 13:51:01 · 14 answers · asked by nicki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Someone mentioned that I'm gay and that probably what made me do this, okay I'm NOT gay.I'm a girl.
His parents are devout Christians and my family is Hindu. My grandfather is what you call a hindu priest and my whole family is devout.
My sister would call this a bad Bend it like Beckham movie.
But it sucks though.
2006-08-03 14:18:17 · update #1
You are just at school level . WAIT.
You said "But I'm afraid that if we wait, we might lose whatever fe feel for each other and go different directions. "
Well in that case it was not worth the trouble. Life is not 2-3 hour movie. It lasts much longer. Pay attention to your studies now. Both of you. Otherwise those "feelings" will evaporate with real life problems .
I mean it and I am not talking about reaction of parents. relationship/ marriage needs more than teenage infatuation to survive.
2006-08-04 06:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Karma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever you feel for each other....
If you love him... and I mean LOVE, like you cannot live without him, want to be with him forever, he is the best thing that ever came in your life, etc, etc, and you want to do the right thing, talk to your parents. Sometimes mom's can be pretty understanding - or, in some cases dad's.
You could talk to a cousin or aunt, or even a priest. I don't think that you're worried too much about the religion, I think that you're worried more about how your family will react.
Perhaps you could talk to someone who can help mediate for you. Or, you could bring up the subject and see what your parents will say without telling them that you have met someone.
Good Luck :-)
2006-08-03 13:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by smazedmi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no question that's time for the two one among you to shrink those ties that bind. that's in basic terms honest to yourselves and your others and your families to go away your marriages. that's not user-friendly. You the two could have thoughts to your spouses that's why you married in the 1st place yet you ought to place those thoughts of feeling sorry aside needless to say there are different subjects in contact. you have already crossed that line. that's not honest to every physique to stay in a tragic marriage. There are no longer any young ones in contact so some distance as custody. All you ought to combat approximately is cloth issues. featuring the territory. Any annoying thoughts between you and your spouses or perhaps your toddlers will bypass with time. no person desires to be in a relationship that is going nowhere. that's not healthful.
2016-10-01 11:00:17 · answer #3 · answered by bondieumatre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really believe your God/s whatever you believe in would hold it against you if you wanted to be with another person? If so, I have one question for you...What kind of God/s is that? I think people who won't be together because of their religion are being foolish! Why is it that some people believe if you don't believe in what they do..the other person is wrong? Most ppl have some sort of faith...Just because we all aren't the same, doesn't make us wrong...
2006-08-03 14:15:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't care about the religion. If you both like each other go out, don't wait til it's to late.
2006-08-03 13:57:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really care about this person and want to be with him, then go for it! This is your chance to be with him and if you let it go now, there may never be another chance with him. Stand up for what you want, tell the people in your life who are supposed to want you to be happy, that you're happy with this guy and that you want to be with him.
2006-08-03 13:57:49 · answer #6 · answered by thewomanbehindtheman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if its love it could wait a little bit till u feel comfortable tellin your parents and if it isnt then you u dont lose a friendship over it
2006-08-03 13:56:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly this isnt a fight about your values. i had the same problem with a girlfriend of mine. but i realized i was just thinking about myself. so i let go and let her have her beliefs and me have my beliefs. we were a regular couple but we still had lighthearted religious debates. beliefs are just beliefs and not something worth giving up your happiness for. you should read a book called madame butterfly
2006-08-03 14:03:36 · answer #8 · answered by maguathehearteater 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since you seem to be gay you should give up your religion and get with your buddy cause god hates homos
2006-08-03 14:00:47 · answer #9 · answered by Pirate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your just dating not getting married like tomorrow so i dont see what the prob should be unless you have control freak parents and even then theyd have to get over it too
2006-08-03 13:55:15 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl_mandy82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋