Should I kill himself if I am hopeless?

Question

I am an utter loser. I am 33. I have never had a girlfriend and I am still a virgin. This is because I am downright ugly. I have a big nose, a skinny face, a long neck and balding. I don't have any friends either. I still live at home. I work two jobs but it's not enough to live on my own. I will probably be alone for the rest of my life. Why am I still alive? I wanna drive off into a river and end this life. But is there any hope? How do I get out his mind-set of hopelessness and feeling like a loser and feeling like I am so ugly that people, especially girls, don't like me? I try to have a positive attitude, but when I look in the mirror, I see the ugliest man in the world.

Answer 1

hey, man, don't kill yourself! just go out, don't stay home all the time. do things that interest you, whether it be playing tennis, or going to comic-con, or whatever. you will make friends. trust me, i know what's it's like to not have any friends. you just have to keep staying positive. and if you are working two jobs, but you still live at home, you have nothing, and i mean nothing to be ashamed of. you are a hard working guy, and the world can be cruel. i haven't even met you, but i like you because you sound like an honest, hard-working guy who would be a good friend if you had the chance. and you still have time. go out there, and show the world what they are missing Larry, and let them know that they can't keep you down!

Answer 2

i hea r where you're coming from. sound too serious. too bad. but 33 is not too late to make something out of your life. Snap out of it. Self-pity is dangerous and committing suicide won't solve any thing. Go to school, pick up a hobby, make a friend or two, keep youself occupied.Often, when you have too much time in your hands, the mind wanders and hopelessness and desperation sets in. How's your support system? Got any relatives you can confide in,. There are a lot of free classes in state colleges for you to learn a new trade. You know there are more people more ugly but they are survivors. hope you don't have a drinking problem as depression goes hand in hand. Try covering that mirror. i don't look in the mirror at all. Did you try contacting support group for depression? how about the suicide prevention center? Just by talking about it points you to the right direction. I'm sure you want help. Go seek it. put your faith back in the Lord,our God. Be long to some church and participate in their activities.

Answer 3

What would killing yourself accomplish? Disregarding any spiritual beliefs or implications, how could you possibly know what was in store for you on the other side? Are you willing to bet (your life!) that anything will be better or different on the other side? Suicide is a coward's way out...one who doesn't have the gumption to go on in the face of adversity or uncomfortable circumstances. If the people with whom you've had previous contact can only see the physical beauty (or lack thereof) then these people are too shallow and self-centered for their opinions to matter to you in the first place!

Find friends with church singles groups. Join a volunteer organization such as the ASPCA; a lot of people who love animals are capabable of loving others as well. Or, just strike up a friendly conversaton with someone at the bus stop, the grocery store or even in line at the bank. Be willing to make the first move; the person to whom you want to speak may be as lonley and starved for human contact as you are. To get a friend, be a friend.

Answer 4

Larry, If you are really unhappy and want to change then start in small ways.
If you still live at home then maybe you could go to college so you can learn how to make more money.
If you look around there is not that many really attractive people out there. Most of us have some physical flaws.
If you are lonely maybe there is a group you could join of some kind.
Whether it is a bowling league, or a sailing group, or what ever you find interesting.
Take little steps, make little changes and things will get better for you as you go along.

Answer 5

man killing your self isnt the answer and if u are serious about this you should go and talk to someone that can help you im serious,saying something this serious on here is going to raise alarm for all of us so im suggesting you get some help and being a virgin is the least of your problems taking your life is .you need a friend im here you can email and bullshit with me [e-mail]

Answer 6

Posting this question means a lot in terms of trying to shake your hopelesness off your shoulders.
Before running to the nearest bridge, try to read again what you just wrote. I bet you'll be able to find at least three positive or attractive features in you.

Answer 7

"I believe you can lighten-up on yourself, after all, we are our own worst critics. There probably won't be anyone around that thinks you are as hopeless as you think of yourself. I can identify with you and your imaginary problems. Everything you need to overcome your problems resides in you. You have all the necessary tools at your disposal to come out on top of your paradigm. Look closely at all the many choices you have to improve your status in your peer group."
The best of luck to you!

Answer 8

I don't like myself much either. I think I'm pretty ugly too. But I've still found ways to be happy- you just gotta find things that bring you joy and surround yourself with them.

Answer 9

Bro, believe me when I tell you that I know how you feel. The best advice I can give you is to stop waiting for others to bring happiness to you. You KNOW that you are a good person. If girls don't want to share that with you, its their loss isn't it?

Answer 10

If you REALLY feel this bad about yourself you ought to get some therapy to get this figured out..I'm sure there are plenty of good things about you that you aren't able to acknowledge.