We lived together for 3 years and then she left, taking me by surprise, about 4 months ago. I never wanted her to go. We are still pretty close, and we speak at least twice a week. I don't know if I'm still in love with her or not, but I can't stop thinking about her. It gets in the way of other things and often brings my mood down (remembering the good times that are now relegated to the past). I don't know what to do about it. I don't want to stop being friends with her (and I don't reallty think that would solve the problem) but it's really getting to me. Anyone got any suggestions or advice that might help?
2006-08-03 13:34:34 · 9 answers · asked by Entwined 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Thanks for the answers so far. I think I'd better add some more details though.
We've both seen other people since we split (neither worked out). I've tried to get back with her, but I know she has someone else on her mind. Right now, I'm not really thinking about getting back with her. We've met up numerous times for dinner or a drink. Not ever seeing her would be impossible, because of our circle of friends. Even though I'm not thinking about getting back with her (and am actually concentrating on someone I met a couple of weeks ago, although nothing has really happened yet) I can't stop thinking about her. I know why she left. That's been done and dealt with. I just can't stop thinking about her. That's it.
2006-08-03 21:28:54 · update #1
get over it and moved on and remain friends
2006-08-03 13:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by joytoy1963 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you don't think not being friends would solve the problem because you love her and that is the only way you can still have any type of contact with her. But my friend I am here to tell you that you are delusional- you guys will never be friends at least not any time soon. Not until you move on. I know it sucks having a broken heart is the worst and I hate to say it buddy but only time will heal your pain......
2006-08-03 13:50:34 · answer #2 · answered by natmarie25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a know it hard.but the best thing u could do is not be in contact.try and move on .a mean its been 4 months.if you see the person it will bring back all the good times..5 years ago i broke up with my husband the father of my children.15 years we had been together.the only way i got over it was to move on.i never seen him still don't see him...now my life is superb... good luck.x
2006-08-03 13:46:17 · answer #3 · answered by shazz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there has to be a reason why she left? Ask her to be honest, and dont get angry if she tells you the answer. Love hurts, its painful as hell. plus the better the sex, the harder (excuse the pun) it is to move on and forget. If she left taking you by surpirse its been a build up of problems over a period of time - are you brave enough and commited enough to tackle these issues?
2006-08-03 13:40:46 · answer #4 · answered by Mercy J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did you break up? if you broke up and there is no ways of making the relationship work, then leave it alone. i wouldn't even be friends with her if you still have that strong of feelings for her. if will just leave you drained. you will feel much better once you stop thinking about her. find a hobby that you love
2006-08-03 14:01:22 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
check if shes datin anyone else...if not talk about getting back together.
2006-08-03 13:38:12 · answer #6 · answered by ♥SexylOve16♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you reached once, reach her again you fool. you had something special once, find that magic you have in you even if it hurts.
2006-08-03 14:04:44 · answer #7 · answered by KU 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u must be desperate
2006-08-04 00:00:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP THINKING ABOUT HER
2006-08-06 12:32:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋