...after she encouraged you to get out of the abusive and unhealthy relationship, We've been divorced over 2 years. I'm remarried and happy. My ex just stopped trying to contact me 7 months ago via email, mailing things to my house, calling and leaving messages - all of it unwanted and ignored by me. I'm offended that she would even communicate with him after the way he treated me. I don't want him to know anything about my life and he may be getting details about me from her. If she had an ounce of consideration for my feelings would this be happening?
2006-08-03 13:18:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
My ex and I have no children together or separately.
2006-08-03 13:42:23 · update #1
When we split up, my parents were not aware of all that had happened in our relationship - they knew we argued sometimes but did not know how he talked or acted to me when we were alone. In front of my family and his, he was a good guy - an angel to his parents and helped my parents with things - but he could have a been a total ... jerk on the way there or after we left. I tried to stick it out but it got to be too much. Even after my parents knew about what had happened between us, I was completely hurt and frustrated because they continued to stay in touch with him and ask him for help - they said they would not 'take sides' because there are 2 sides to every story - i was appalled and reminded them that I was their daughter and he treated me like crap - they responded they 'he did things for them' (helping them with home improvement or whatever), That hurt like hell and my sisters knows that,
2006-08-03 13:58:07 · update #2
Yes - especially if he was abusive to you - she must be under his spell - you must confront her - she sounds single??? Good on you for finding someone else and getting out of that relationship - it took a lot of courage I bet. I am glad you are happy now. Stress to your sister how much this is upsetting you and what her reasons are. It sounds to me that your ex is using your sister as he cant let go completely of you - explain this to your sister and good luck
2006-08-03 13:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by PERCY L 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd be very upset if any of my sisters were in contact with my ex. You have every reason to be upset. Call your sister and in a calm voice let her you love her but that her recent communications with your ex not only cause you heartache, but scare you. Tell her you understand if she's just being polite to him, but ask her to promise you not to give him any personal details about your life. Hopefully your sister will hear you and understand.
2006-08-03 13:24:46 · answer #2 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds kinda like me and my sister. I think your sister should respect the fact that you do not want her talking to him because of your history with him. If she can respect that then there are some serious issues.
2006-08-03 13:24:18 · answer #3 · answered by garichick4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you have kids together? It might be because of them. Otherwise, let your sister know that as long as she is talking to him, to please make sure not to mention anything about you. You can't control what other's are doing, but you can let her know how you feel and ask her to respect your wishes about your privacy.
2006-08-03 13:24:29 · answer #4 · answered by wellbeing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if she did then she wouldn't talk to him. But, she is her own person, and it may be that he is talking to her b/c he can't talk to you.
You could talk to her and tell her how you feel. You don't want this loser knowing about your life and how you are doing. If she loves and respects you, she'll do it.
2006-08-03 13:24:30 · answer #5 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is she trying to pick up your leftovers? I'd quit talking to her. She's trying to stir the pot.
2006-08-03 13:25:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you never know what she could be telling him, talk to her about it and see what they talk about. shes your sister so shes gonna care more about ur feelings than his.
2006-08-03 13:24:03 · answer #7 · answered by ♥SexylOve16♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell yeah,how dare she,sisters like that need their a** kicked!!!!
2006-08-03 13:23:53 · answer #8 · answered by gladys 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be extremely upset
2006-08-03 13:22:59 · answer #9 · answered by Stace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HELL YES!!! ASK HER WHY SHE IS DOING THIS IT MIGHT CAUSE HIM TO START HASSLING YOU AGAIN.
2006-08-03 13:22:52 · answer #10 · answered by tas-okay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋