What are your tips for moving in and living with my boyfriend?

Question

Been going out 3 years.
Moving into a small flat.
Any tips or ideas so we don't murder each other after a week. How can we make it bearable?

Answer 1

compromise.
the first weeks will be lovely.
then little things will start to niggle - but discuss them ie please don't dump the wet towels on the bathroom floor.

Its all about weighing things up - you love him do the wet towels really matter?

My husband always drops towels in the bedroom and various other silly things BUT at the end of the day I would rather be picking up wet towels and living with him than not being with him.

Good luck x x x

Answer 2

With it being a small flat, that may be hard to do, to prevent a murder taking place.
However, try to accomadate each other, give each other the space, limited as it may be, that you both need.
Now you being the gal, don't hog the bathroom, ladies tend to do that.
Sit down and make up a list of no no's, so you know what each other wants. Then argue them out.
No stockings hanging up in the bathroom, and that sort of thing. Do some give and take, once you have the list. Make some changes, if you give this up, I'll give that up.
At least, with some rules laid down, you will be able to talk about things. If something isn't going right, jump on it right away, don't let it fester.
Talk it out, work it out, then all should go well.
Well as well as it can go, with two people of the opposite sex can go.
Good luck to your both.

Answer 3

Your wonderful senses of humour, of course. Have him carry you over the threshold. That will help you both lighten up. Do you realize how fortunate you are to have a boyfriend? Find out what tickles him. Find out what makes him chuckle. Find out what really fuels his sense of humour. Find out if it is anything like your own. You have to have some common ground, here, and humour seems to drag in all the senses, from irritability to patience, and from stubborness to complacency. Do you really love him? Are you fond of him? Are you mad about him? Are you both practical and sensible or are you pie in the sky loonies who love doing things that are spontaneous and delightful and fun? You can make living with anyone, your boyfriend included, by not "coming in for the close-up." I have lived (get this one) with an attorney (!) for forty-seven years. (Ghasp.) And do you know how we do it? We cut each other a lot of slack. We have a lot of respect for one another. He is much smarter than I am, but I am more intuitive than he is. He is a Leo and I am a Cancerian. He does the books and I do the laundry and the dishes. He is very reserved and predictable and I am flighty, sensitive and really creative. We get along, and will probably continue to get along for another twenty years because we leave each other alone. We do not "come in for the close-up." I think you know what I mean. We accord one another miles of breathing room. He is 84 and I am 63. We are very fond of one another, and when it comes to those really important things you feel deep down inside yourself, we are attuned almost perfectly. I am sending this to you with the hope this will bring you some invisible insights that will not confine you and that you will not judge him, as you have obviously had some advantages in Life that he has not had. Your sense of humour will probably carry him over the rough spots. Try to remember all things you love, not like, about him. How much fun are you to be around? How much fun are you to live with? God, I'm glad no one asks me those questions! Sent to you with a big smile and hopes for a good autumn in your new flat. When the walls start to close in, and the season begins to change, make sure the two of you go outdoors often and you should be fine until June. From there, you will already have the answers you do not have now. Take good care, and God Bless both of you. From Chris in South Portland, Maine, U.S.A. 9:25 P.M. Thursday evening 3 August 2006.

Answer 4

If you haven't already, try a few trial runs . . . maybe a few weekends or test it for a month. Discuss the finances and the chores (VERY important to iron these out, in the beginning). Who shops, who cooks, who cleans, who does laundry? Analyze the other's habits (snoring, messiness, TV programming) and decide if they may become flash points, later.

Also formulate a budget and discuss group vs. individual bank accounts (the reality is: there may one day be an undoing of your cohabitation . . . plan for a clean, fair, and practical financial separation).

Finally, give long consideration to visitation by friends and family, as there will undoubtedly be times when one partner will have no tolerance for the guests of the other (especially for parents who may disapprove of the arrangement in the first place).

Good luck!

Answer 5

well i think that if ur ready to live together you should go for it.. only thing i can think of saying is give each other space dont hang out all the time... let him go out every now and then and u go out as well that gives u both time to miss each others company and less fights because ur not always with him 24/7. Another thing... make it clear u both clean up together and not all the house chores are all on one person.

Answer 6

Stay open minded. Remember that you two are different people and you each want different things. Make sure to give eachother space and make sure to always be honest. You both may have annoying habits that will need some getting used to.

Answer 7

1) always still see ur friends as b4
2) split all bills
3) doont do all the cleaning u aaint his mom
4) give him sex atleast 2 times a week

tip from me: finding a man to live with is easy, the trick is finding a man u cant live without!

Answer 8

well if you guys love each other then it's gonna be really fun at first, you probally will not get on each other's nerves for awhile just because it will be so exciting being together.

Answer 9

don't move in
just get married
check out the statistics on divorce and moving in and marriage

Answer 10

the only way it really works is if you dont spend too much time with each other in the same room................