Do you think that having too good of a conscience can be a burden?

Question

I think that it is, because sometimes I feel that I am far too nice to people. There are some people who I cannot bring myself to criticize, even if they are doing something blatantly wrong. I always try to point out the good things despite the overbearingly wrong things with a certain subject. I just hate negativity, and I think that I would possibly be a stronger person mentally if I were able to overcome my... you know, niceness.
What do you think?

Answer 1

I have a large conscience, I always try to do the right thing.

I think the burden would be getting into bed at night and having to think of what you SHOULD have done... NOT that you did the right thing.

Answer 2

Well its still vary broad.

There are .. 4 states of the heart. and.. well see..

The first state is of the giving heart.. you give and give and see positive things often ignoring the negative because someone is afriad to think bad thoughts. This is usually followed by giving but not being able to recieve.. gifts.. complaments etc.

The second state is the opposite taking and being negative and unable to give.

The third state is the cold heart where you dont give or recive anything ..

and the last state the sweet heart seeks a balance this is the ideal.



I see your point in inability to post nagative thoughts but if your inability to exspress negativity is seen as good then your fooling yourself. Its actually a negative thing not able to point out what you see as truthful.

The truth is a positive state of mind.. Moderation where.. we can see a fault and wrong esily but being constructive and positive is the key to mastering negativity.

Niceness is a fault when you turnacate the truth niceness.. in the manner you describe is.. well half a lie.

Being able to judge something is easy but observation and reporting of the truth is the right state. It takes strength and it makes you feel better because the things your restraining give you pressure and people who know you..

Will eventually know what your doing too and then if thats the case would you trust your opinion if asked?

Answer 3

You don't have to criticize the beliefs or the actions of others to be non accepting of how they live their life. You do not have to participate in their choices for fun etc. Being kind is a good thing. Being friendly to everyone is also a good trait. Always share your beliefs even if they differ from those you are in contact with, do with the power you feel inside. Set an example. Don't be drawn in to bad behaviors or situations by not standing up for what you believe. You can do this in a way to where others will respect you. You can be kind, and not come across as a "goody goody" or a snob. I hope I have been helpful. Too nice would be letting people take advantage of you because of your kind good nature. You can be who you are with out turning negative. You know....moderation in all things. Good luck.

Answer 4

You can't really, it will feel unnatural I am like you - and even though you could in the end you will inevitably feel guilty and care too much because then people will start giving you the cold shoulder for being mean and although somone who is not as nice can take that you probably can't - and I've been accused of being too nice, that way people take advantage of you and many times people asked me if I was gay...the contradiction is that women say they like nice guys but then if a guy is nice he is gay. So yeah it sucks. When your life is driven by an urge to be nice, guilt and conscience.

So even if you tried to change and act different, you would not sleep easy at the end of the day. So I guess its not worth it to change and to just bear the burden of niceness. Nice Guys Finish last yeh well...tell me about it.

Answer 5

I think that being nice is a great thing, there are not enough people in the world like you. but that is exactly the point. There are too many people in this world that take advantage of nice people and i beleive that if you dont want to get walked all over that it is best to overcome being so nice and let that person know what the hell the problem is because if not, later they might try to take advantage of you. dont get me wrong niceness is a great quality but at the same time you should know when to be nice and when to be firm. I have kinda had the same problem in the past that you dont want anybody to get mad at you for speaking the truth but after so long i realized that in this world everyone should know how to set their boundary. Goodluck.

Answer 6

Having a scrupulous conscience can be a burden . People can take advantage of your niceness. You can be read like a book .
You become so transparent and vulnerable. Sometimes, it's good to be bad for a a change. and have the winning hand. With a very scrupulous conscience , you can become the victim of your own scruples. and destroy any inclination towards adventures. Throw caution to the wind.

Answer 7

if u consider urself a human and wanna create the ever illusive humane society, then its not a burden. its ur special quality, which only possessed by a rare amount of people.
but if u think, u wanna be the price winner, in the so called modern civilized society, then yes its a huge burden. the sooner u strip off urself of conscience, the prosperous u will be in life. can't u see the greatest advocate of peace and democracy Mr. G. W. Bush.
which one u wanna be. the president of the Unites States of America or a human.

Answer 8

Your "niceness" can be your own worst enemy. People will take advantage of it as often as they can. You have to learn to be just.
Knowing someone is doing wrong and you don't say anything isn't a defamation of you conscience. If you didn't know that they were doing wrong then it would all be the same to you.
It is merely lack of experience of calling people on their bullsh*t.
Being kind is a virtue and not everyone is blessed with it.

Answer 9

Neither niceness nor a conscience is something that is a burden or to be overcome. As long as your niceness isn't really gullibility, and as long as it doesn't get you used by other people, it's a good thing.

You still need to be able to recognize when something's wrong, though, even if you don't confront it. You don't need to.

Answer 10

It all comes with time, I know my conscience can be a burden but I always put myself in the other persons shoes. Treat people how you want to be treated. BUT if I do something really stupid or dramatize something I am grateful if it is brought to my attention in a loving manner.