I have been with a man for over 2 years now. I am a friend of the family and we like each other. Iwant him to leave his wife. We get along great. The wife is a problem. It is an arranged marriage in the Indian culture. He says that he wants to leave ,but ...
2006-08-03 13:05:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
they don't leave their wives - they string dumb women around to get sex -
2006-08-03 13:09:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said it yourself...you LIKE him. And that is very rotten of you to be a friend of the family and actually be screwing him under the table. What kind of 'friend' is that?
This guy is obviously using you for sex. Don't you think he gets a rise out of seeing the two of you together? His wife not knowing...that's a shame. And he actually has you thinking that he's going to leave her? Or, is it you just have that in your head? Why would you want a man like that? Even if you did get him, he would do the same thing to you. What makes you different from her?
Don't let yourself be used like this. Be a woman and dump the loser, enjoy being single until you find an available man to date. Then get married and have babies and have a wonderful life...don't sell yourself short by waiting and waiting for the day he will leave his wife for you. Most likely you will wait your life away.
2006-08-03 20:29:43 · answer #2 · answered by amyvnsn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a brain! And find a single man!
Do you get off on being a homewrecker!
He'll never leave his wife. You are his toy. He only plays with you for a while. Then he goes home to reality the wife and kids.
You shouldn't be looking for ways to split them up. Have some respect for yourself and find a single man worthy of you. All of you!
Your friends are right being the other woman is bad. And remember this what comes around goes around!!!!!
2006-08-03 20:48:05 · answer #3 · answered by rockn75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry I know this is not what your gonna want to hear but he will never leave his wife. I don't care what he says about wanting to leave her because that is his excuse to you. If he wanted to leave he would have left a long time ago. Trust me he won't leave her. OK let's say he did you think he won't do the same thing to you. A man that cheats on his wife is no good!! A good man would leave his wife first before starting another relationship. Could you imagine if you were her. How would you feel? I'm sorry to have to say these thing's to you but these relationship's never work. I know you will stay with him because you have year's invested with him and I know you love him. I wish you luck though.
2006-08-03 20:27:55 · answer #4 · answered by Linda S 43 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Married men will not easily leave their wives...why? They can string you along for casual sex, because you are willing to play along. If he leaves his wife he will have pay child support, loose 50% of his assets and then have to go into massive debt just to live...even if you are well off - he will then be dependent on you. I reckon as long as you are willing to play the game, he will stay with his wife, best of both worlds.
His wifes not the problem the two of you are...you need to force him to make a decision and he needs to grow some gasoongies.
2006-08-03 20:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Valdar V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me, you can't MAKE him leave his wife...You would be wise to forget him or just be friends. He won't ever leave his wife...so don't expect it. He may want to leave her but he will never do it. A marriage that is arranged is difficult but it would be an embarrassment to his family if he left his wife...so you are smart to find someone else who can make you happy and give you the happiness you deserve.
2006-08-03 20:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by irishME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's been 2 years. Do you really think he's going to leave his wife? Even if it's a arranged marriage. He's not going to leave her.
2006-08-03 20:11:12 · answer #7 · answered by armywifeoftony 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure you'd like him if you had him all to yourself? It's a whole different banana.
Think: if a guy will accept an arranged marriage, he probably wouldn't divorce because he sees marriage as a function of culture, not love.
2006-08-03 20:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by dietcokeani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good luck with that one. I was fortunate and my husband is from the states no cultural beliefs although he did feel sorry for his then wife. So I broke up with him and he could not bare the fact of me not answering his calls or having personal conversation with me at work. So he finally left her after six months.
2006-08-03 20:28:03 · answer #9 · answered by florie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe in that culture if it was an arranged marriage, "adultery" is treated differently than in ours and she'll have to stay with him!I don't know in that culture if they look favorably on "divorce"! Maybe it's more like until "death do us part"! Like her father and brother's{ if she has any} would probably "kill" him if they found out! lol But I wouldn't hold my breath thinking that he's going to leave on his own!I think you're playing with fire and you ought to think about saying "goodbye" !
2006-08-03 21:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by noditz57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to ask yourself why on earth you would ever want to carry on an affair with a married man? What is it that makes you think you are not worthy enough for sharing your love with someone who is free to spend the rest of his life with you? Someone who shows you respect and can be there when you need him (including the holidays). You aren't going to find this true love by being with someone who is married. Don't waste another minute of time looking for him.
2006-08-03 20:17:33 · answer #11 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋