We have had quite a few problems. Like i've had a public display of affection problem and an internet problem. I don't think i have been treating her like she needs to be treated. She is now staying with her father and not staying in our apartment and refuses to come home and work it out because she said she had tried for the last year and it did not work. I don't expect an overnight change but i want to know if there is a way to speed up her recovery? i really want her back and i really love her with all my heart and the time i have spent away from her is really killing me and it was a wake-up call! How can i get the most wonderful person i've ever known back into my life? :( someone please help me!
2006-08-03 12:36:38 · 7 answers · asked by rjbw110708 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You cant move on
2006-08-03 12:48:48 · answer #1 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats the problem right there, people don't change until its too late. Now, I'm not saying theres no chance, but its going to be very hard, and you might have to face the fact that things will never be the same.
I suggest you don't pressure, it will only make things worse, but I do suggest you support her for whatever she desires, and stay a part of her life, even if it is just as friends. In this time she may realize that she misses you and wants you back, however don't count on it. Show her that you have changed everyday (through your actions, not your words-- words are meaningless).
If she ends up finding another guy she is interested in, don't start flipping out, just be patient and show her that much more how good you too are together. etc etc.
Now getting her back will take time and you must be patient, but you said you love her right, and if you truely do, nothing is too much or too long for you--I'm sure she put up with your crap for awile, and when a woman is scorned, its gonna be tough work to get her back.
2006-08-03 19:48:33 · answer #2 · answered by aljea 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Express what you've told us to her; then, give her a while to think about it. Please don't push or her no matter how much you're hurting. She needs time to think and decide whether to give the relationship another try. Since this was a wake up call, make sure that you're willing to to whatever it takes to give the relationship what it needs to thrive and grow and be willing to stick to it. She's been hurt, so speeding it up will only cause her to push you away. Give her time after she has listened to you.
2006-08-03 19:57:31 · answer #3 · answered by Genny2ster 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need to speed up YOUR recovery. If you weren't treating her like you were supposed to, what was she supposed to do? She's had enough of your selfish a**, let her move on with her life, and apply this lesson to your next relationship.
2006-08-03 19:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Words are cheap. She has heard it all before, so now you have to show her. It won't happen overnight, but with time you can prove to her that you are able to give her what she needs and how you feel. Give her some space and see what happens.
2006-08-03 19:53:59 · answer #5 · answered by Shelly B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Learn what you can from this relationship and be stronger for it.
Also be thankful she is gone now instead of after marriage.
2006-08-03 19:46:09 · answer #6 · answered by WhatIf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on
2006-08-03 19:41:46 · answer #7 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋