help with my low self esteem?

Question

all my life boys and gurls have placed me at the bottom of the list and i have grown to believe it and when a boy does like me i cant trust him cause i think he just messin with my heart so then i go home from school and cry all day everytime i think about it wat do i do

Answer 1

i used to be like that, and i cried every night. but finally i went with one of the boys one day, and he made me realise that i am beautiful, and ever since then i have been fine. sometimes i cry for no reason, but i feel alt better. try it, the next guy who likes u, if u trust him, then go for it, and i'm sure things will get better. if u need more help, email me at

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Answer 2

First, you will have to change your way of thinking. It wont be easy but if you want out of this frame of mind, youll have to work on it. All kids go thru this phase soon er or later, but most just dont let it show or get to them. When a boy talks to you, dont think of him as a boyfriend but that he just wants to be friends. Afterall you have to be friends first before being anything else. So look at it as being friends and leave your heart out of it until that right someone comes along or you may never experience love. There is no such thing as a "list" so there can be no bottom. You will be someones best friend and just a friend to another. Be yourself and the rest will take care of itself. It really sounds like youre trying really way to hard to get a boyfriend and when one comes around you get scared and find someway to scare him off. Again, slow down, you have a lifetime to find the right guy, but try to be friends with severalboys and when you least expect it he will be there. I really dont see no more low self conifidence in you then any other young person in the same boat. All you need to do is learn to talk to your friends more and learn to trust them as friends and the rest will follow. Good luck

Answer 3

Usually ppl that treat other ppl badly and put them down are only hiding the fact that their is something about their own inner self that they are not happy with. Be who u are, not who others want u 2 be. I'm sure u are a beautiful person inside and that is the most important thing. I know it's not easy 2 hold your emotions when someone hurts your feelings, but remember.....they are the ones with the problem, not u. I think after u read some of your answers u will see that u have more friends than u know. Keep your chin up and stay positive sweetheart. {smiley face}

Answer 4

I want you to do something crazy. I want you to run outside your house and point up your two middle fingers and turn 360 degrees around you and say "F*CK YOU", out loud, really loud. This might seem crazy but it will help you get rid of what you've been holding inside. Don't worry about what people have to say about you. Live your life your own way. Do anything you want, don't let people tell you what to do. Don't hate yourself. Regardless what you do or how you live your life, there's ALWAYS gonna be somebody who thinks they know you better than you, who thinks they know how you should live your life. If boys like you, don't give in too easily, be nice with them and don't play hard to get either. Kinda hang out with whichever boy for a while and see what he's all about. If he's one of those punks, or an a s s or whatnot, follow your heart girl.

Answer 5

I'm sorry to know that you feel as badly as you do.
Things can change, but it will take a little time.

First you have to figure out WHY your self esteem is low.
Are you shy, were you always shy? Are things at home okay? What makes you feel uncomfortable when you are with others? If you answer what and why. You'll be on your way to higher self esteem. And when your self esteem is higher you will not be picked last in school.

There is more to feeling better, but the suggestion I made comes first and it is a lot for you to do and accept.

But you will still have us to assist you further.

Good luck and God Bless.

Answer 6

Sweetheart --- OMG --- look, everyone goes through this stuff. Problem is some of us take it deeper than others do. PLEASE PLEASE and try this......it will work. I don't care how scared you are or shy but FORCE YOURSELF. You walk around. You smile - you hold your head up high. Remember, you are no less of a person than ANY OF THEM. You treat people with repsect and you will get respect. All you have to do is show that you are you --- with a smile on your face (no matter if you are shaking in your shoes or not). Be a soldier and do this. Just do it for a short period of time and you will find out that you can make these insecure feelings stop. THEN you will start realizing how awesome you can be. Don't hold back.

Answer 7

I am very sorry to hear that you have had some rough times. I know how you feel, trust me. But you have to stay strong. People, espeacially your peers, can be very cruel. Just remember who you are and that you are not alone. You are loved in so many ways even though sometimes you don't believe it. Live your life to the fullest. Trust your heart and don't let them get you down! They will only get to you if you let them. Good luck, and remember what I said! You are truely loved!

Answer 8

I felt this way, too, for a long, long time, even when I was in my 20s. Finally someone who really mattered to me thought I was pretty, and I realized those other people didn't really see me or look at me. They just saw what they thought I was and not what I really was. You know how you look at something sometimes and don't really see it, and maybe later on you can't even tell someone what it looked like? That's the way it was. I realized that I may not have been beautiful, but I sure as heck wasn't ugly, and I'll bet you're not either. Once someone that mattered thought I was pretty, I realized I really was.

Answer 9

Get tons of plastic surgery!!! Just kidding, why don't you evaluate the people that have made you feel that way. What could have gone wrong in their lives? Everybody has insecurities, but you have to learn how to channel those feeling in a positive way. Learn to be tolerant of cruel people. You may be surprised by what their life has been like. Also, don't cry so much it makes your eyes look puffy and drained of life. Be strong and avoid the people that make you feel that way.

Answer 10

Sweetheart, get some outside help. You are worth more than you know. I am assuming that you are pretty young, and those years are really rough on a lot of us. Please find someone you can talk to and share your feelings with. In time, with good support, you will come to a much more realistic understanding of yourself and of your own self worth. Sometimes we can't trust others because we don't trust ourselves. Please know that one day you WILL feel better about yourself if you take some positive steps now. You are not alone in your feelings and there are people who can help you sort things out. Good luck.