I signed a prenup when I got married recently, my husband said it's because the laws are horrible in Louisiana. I wasn't happy but I did it. I feel alot of anger and resentment over it. To me it's not a real marriage if we can't be equals. He's not wealthy and I'm not looking for money. It just feels like we will lead seperate lives and that he doesn't truly love me or trust me. It hurts me and I don't know how to deal with it.
2006-08-03 12:29:36 · 10 answers · asked by Fleur de Lis 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There's nothing wrong with signing a pre-nup, as long as it's constructed in a way that is fair to both parties. Just because you signed one, doesn't mean you can't be "equals". Souns like there are other issues. Does he question your spending? Is he unfair to you? Does he not trust you with money? It's not the pre-nup, it's the fact that he's mistrustful; try to figure out why it would be. Did you ever give him a reason not to trust you? Has he always had trust issues? Perhaps, you both can benefit from some marriage counseling.
2006-08-03 12:51:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
A marriage is a business / partner ship and each individual must protech that finances and property. I think your husband did a great thing and you should have done it as well. It doesn't matter if your wealthy or not. You are just protecting yourself. In today's world there are over 50% of marriages resolving in divorce and if you are a divorce individual and decide to marry again - there is a 70% divorce rate. There is not a crime for protecting one self in marriage.
2006-08-03 19:36:06 · answer #2 · answered by Looking 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have signed it in the first place, you didn't like it then. You did it anyway, you got married anyway and now you are surprised that you resent the situation...hmmmm! You compromised your beliefs and your opinions and yourself to get to a wedding day, now you are trying to live with that and its not working out. You either accept it and move on, realize you made a stupid choice and basically taught him that he can get you to compromise your beliefs AND he doesn't have to worry about your happiness anyway because you signed a pre nup OR you walk out and next time refuse to compromise yourself for anyone or anything. Good luck!
2006-08-03 19:41:44 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then you shouldn't have signed it at all. True enough, that Loiuisiana law can be confusing, as it is a community property state. However, everything that both of you had going into the marriage remains separate. Keep in mind, though, that when things are bought together while married, with JOINT funds, they are community property. Keep good and accurate records.
2006-08-03 19:33:46 · answer #4 · answered by Raggedy Ann 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and explain your feelings to him. Keeping it bottled up will only result in petty fights and more anger. He could also ask....if you love him then shouldnt it be that you dont mind signing? The fact is you signed it, showing you have no desire to "take him to the bank" Show pride in that and start building a life together instead of dwelling on some piece of paper. He is protecting what he worked for, it doesnt mean he doesnt love you.
2006-08-03 19:34:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he isn't wealthy then why did you have to sign a pre nup..and you can tell your husband that the Laws in Louisiana don't require that...
2006-08-03 19:39:00 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too little to late..you should have thought it out or talked to him BEFORE you got married ( I know communication other then sex is very weird for most)..It is called communication look into it..
2006-08-03 19:36:15 · answer #7 · answered by Heather b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Matbe he has been burned in the past.Have you asked him why he made you sign it.try that.and remember this,whats more important, the love and marriage, or whats in the paper you signed.
2006-08-03 19:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him to talk to his lawyer and overturn it for you. Tell him that it bothers you so badly that you don't think you can let it go. If he wants, he can overturn the agreement.
2006-08-03 19:34:22 · answer #9 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then you should divorce him...
2006-08-03 19:32:21 · answer #10 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋