Good advice would be appreciated or just ur feelings?
2006-08-03 12:01:45 · 16 answers · asked by Joe J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
me and my wife hardly see each other and when we do it seems to be some small trivial thing we end up arguing about. I lost most ex's bcuz i honestly do work alot.
2006-08-03 12:07:33 · update #1
I think in a marriage, you can experience ups and Downs, it will pass and in a few months you will be in a different place to where you are now and you will be wondering why you were feeling the way you are now. Talk to your wife about your feelings as this can clear things up in your head and bring you closer together!
2006-08-03 12:07:34 · answer #1 · answered by Emma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be, my advice would be to get your marriage out of its slump, plan a weekend trip, start dating (your wife of course), do the things you did before you got married, find a hobby that you love, spice up things in the bedroom (depending on your wifes level of spice) your mind just needs to get busy and excited about life again so its wandering back to times that seem as though they were more exciting then but really remember when you were there, something obviously went wrong or they wouldn't be ex's, time has a way of dulling the bad and just letting the good shine through. Thats why people go back to their ex's, then two weeks in to it they say ohhhhhhh yes I remember you and I so clearly remember why we weren't together! Good luck to you!
Just read your added details, there is your answer, if you honestly do work a lot and are devoted to your job then simply taking a day off to spend with her and do something would mean a lot to her because she knows how much your work means to you, no better way of saying I know it sometimes doesn't seem like it but you are number one with me! And don't make some excuse about how they can't live without you for a day, they can, they would go on if you took a vacation, or got the flu or had some disaster happen, avoiding a disaster is just as good. I know how hard it is to get caught up in that but as they say nobody ever laid on their death bed and said I wish I had spent more time at work!
2006-08-03 12:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it...sex to me is always the second best medicine for a slump in a marriage, the first best thing to do is talk to your wife about it because honesty is the best policy. Just explain to her that it's nothing personal it's just that you both need to do something fun together and romantic to bring that spark back because u're married and you owe it to each other to make the marriage work!
2006-08-03 12:08:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible. Why are you thinking about them? Is something missing? I sometimes wonder What If. I think we all do. What are the events leading up to the thoughts?
I've been with my husband for 15 years(13 marriage,1 engaged, 1dating)
and we don't seem like the same people anymore, is that what you are going thru?
2006-08-03 12:08:46 · answer #4 · answered by Dragonfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably in the same boat I am in your not happy and your thinking of pleasant memories of the past. I do the same thing but I recently decided that this wasn't good enough so I ended it. Ask yourself if you are truly happy for the most part in your marriage. If you are then stay and work it out. If your not happy then you need to leave. Good luck.
2006-08-03 12:06:40 · answer #5 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never turn back sweetie.. just take the lil Mrs. to the adult store and buy some fun things and spice up your bedroom life.. guarantee you'll be thinking about getting home to play more with the Mrs. and forget about the boring past.
2006-08-03 12:09:11 · answer #6 · answered by passionate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you didn't post any kind of information that would help. Yes, it is most likely a slump in your marriage.
You should talk to your wife about it.
2006-08-03 12:04:27 · answer #7 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are happily married...yes you will think of ex's but...you got a wife and she is there for you and she married you cuz at least you and her know that you won't break each others hearts. Yeah them ex thoughts might come back...but well don't try and let all that invade your marrige with your wife..if it does your screwed.
2006-08-03 12:06:55 · answer #8 · answered by ♥mcmanda♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a slump. No worries. Communicate your feelings with your wife and see if something can be done.
2006-08-03 12:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by omsuperhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When reminiscing, we look through rose colored glasses. Be careful. Make some memories with your current love. Going back is always better in your fantasies The reality is you have a vivid imagination, use it to spice up what you have.
2006-08-03 12:11:30 · answer #10 · answered by mygreensilhouette 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋