i still dont mourn for him and i feel that its wrong for me not to...
2006-08-03 11:56:37 · 8 answers · asked by Saphirre Saphira 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
"Time heals all wounds"
The hurt goes away, but the love doesn't.
2006-08-03 12:03:38 · answer #1 · answered by Marge Simpson 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mourning can be a long process if you don't allow it to happen, but by no means is it wrong for you not to mourn your loss. This just may mean that you are in other stages of this process. Anger, denial, and acceptance are some of the feelings you may have or have not experienced. It is true that time will help you heal but some people take longer than others do. I also lost my father around the age of 12. While my younger sister and I were put through counseling and were guided through the greif process, my mother was not. It took my mother nearly five years to get over my father's death. So, if you can you should try counseling....it can help you through whatever stage you are going through. I wish you the best!
2006-08-03 19:17:18 · answer #2 · answered by holly d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel bad because you don't mourn for him like the way you think you should. My sister in law is 12 and recently we lost her father, she openely cried at his funeral and for a few days afterward and still has times when she has a bit of a cry. But mostly she doesn't mourn for him anymore.
I think she realises that he's gone and there's not a whole lot she can do about it. She knows her dad loved her and he would want her to do the best she can without him.
I lost my dad at a young age and I don't mourn for him either, I think I have come to accept that there was nothing I could do. And at a young age you really don't understand the full concept of death and what it means to the people left behind.
Please be happy, I don't think you're dad would like uyou feeling this way! Just know that he is someplace better and is helping mould you into the person he would like you to be!!
2006-08-03 19:06:53 · answer #3 · answered by udgula26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People mourn differently. Some people cry when everytime they think about their loved one, even years after the loved one dies. Some people never cry, but that doesn't mean that there is something wrong with the way they mourn. You obviously still think about him.
2006-08-03 19:07:34 · answer #4 · answered by every1lovesamixedgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I lost my mother on halloween 05 morning a month after i turned 13. I cryed all halloween and really didnt want to do anything. I didnt want to belive it and it was so heartbreaking for me. I never knew what it felt like to lose someone so close to me. Its ok not to cry after a while. Its been 9 months for me and occanally when i am alone yes i will get a little teary when i think about her but i dont cry anything like i use to. Its because "Time heals the wounds" Its not something unormal that you dont cry about your fathers death anymore its just you have accepted the fact that he is no longer with you and he is forever looking down on you now. He wouldnt want to see you crying all the time. He is happy that you are not crying and moving on with your life now.
Im sorry to hear about your dad thou. But im glade you are moving on with your life and not sitting around and crying all the time, trust me from personal experence i know how it feels.
2006-08-03 19:09:14 · answer #5 · answered by 7-7-07♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well , you are just learning to make do. I am sorry about you loss, and I hope that things look up.
2006-08-03 20:21:17 · answer #6 · answered by vmbbfreak06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first answer
2006-08-03 20:22:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
THIS IS ALL PART OF THE DYING-----NOW YOU'VE ACCEPTED THE FACT THAT YOUR DAD IS GONE----YOUR VERY NORMAL DON'T WORRY ABOUT IT ----OK
AB
2006-08-03 19:34:18 · answer #8 · answered by alice b 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋