2006-08-03 11:55:11 · 20 answers · asked by bigblock_475_hp d 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The only answer I can rationalize is that that is how it is done. Those words are in the vows and you have to say them. However, society is so scrambled and screwed up these days that sometimes a person's word means nothing in the end, regardless of intent when said. Things change...that is the way life is. What is important one day may not be the next. It is sad and stupid but that is the world we live in now. Only those who still believe in things like this will keep the world from being a total loss!
2006-08-03 12:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in today's society divorce is more acceptable. While I don't agree with people staying miserable for the rest of their lives, I think that the whole till death do us part vow might last if people actually spent a more serious amount of time getting to know one another before they take their wedding vows.
I am an advocate for pre martial counseling for this simple fact. I think it would save a lot of heart ache and pain if we as a whole spent more time making the effort to make marriage a life long commitment!!!
2006-08-03 19:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please people-Read this book!--Against Love- It talks all about this very question and its funny--The author contends that "til death to us part " is really "life without parole" and that society is controlled by social norms set up by Christian values- a sort of way to keep the masses quiet- She talks about how people marrying for love has only come about in the last couple hundred years and may not possible given how long people live and change during their lifetimes. That divorce today has replaced what early death used to do-release people from bondage- Personally- I'd rather have 5 great years with a man and part ways peacefully- than 50 years of misery and lies because I care about what people would say if we broke up.
2006-08-03 19:11:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It has been 17 years of meaning it for me and my husband. I think people mean it when they say it but to many people get married without knowing the person they are marrying well enough, or have no concept of what it takes to have a successful marriage.
2006-08-03 19:08:48 · answer #4 · answered by Joy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa, just one minute. Half the marriages in America are still till death do us part. Evidently, they mean it.
2006-08-03 19:07:48 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because society, the church, the moral majority, the christian right, the Kof C, the cub scouts, girl scouts, Catholic Church, PTA, Bush Administration, middle America, young republicans, old republicans, and any number of other special interest groups want to really believe it.
It's an illusion that we really want to believe, just like happily ever after. etc.
2006-08-03 19:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by brian k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that it doesn't work out that way doesn't mean that they didn't mean it and have the best intentions when they said it. Things happen and something going wrong 10 years from now doesn't mean the rest of the relationship didn't have any value or meaning.
2006-08-03 19:03:34 · answer #7 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Marriage is disposable now days. Society and the laws make divorce too acceptable.
2006-08-03 19:07:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I get married, I am actually going to NOT say that--because I dont want to lie in front of God and the Preacher..
2006-08-03 19:31:32 · answer #9 · answered by Plus-Sized &Proud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
becoz when they promise they meant it . people change their priorities change.When they promised the other person may be the most important person in their lives.But now its not true.
2006-08-03 23:08:42 · answer #10 · answered by chocolate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋