Is it me or are . . . .?

Question

is it me or are younger kids becoming more disrespect and have less mannerism towards the adults and older teens?

I volunteer at the Boys and Girls club and I think thy are very disrespectful

Answer 1

Unfortunately teens and pre-teens are victims of their age. There are so many different examples to look at and learn from, and choosing the best ones to follow is not always easy. They are dying to be accepted, and no matter how respectful their parents have raised them to be, sometimes they will bend their own personal rules and make a poor choice just to earn the respect and acceptance from their peers. It's not always a matter of bad parenting- kids are constantly confronted with situations in which they are forced to make a choice as far as how their going to react or behave- and it's up to them to employ the life skills they've been taught at home and at school. Sometimes they don't choose wisely, and it does reflect poorly on the parents, even though they DID do their job. I hate the way people judge parents (especially those who don't even HAVE kids!) because there is often no way to tell what really makes kids do the stupid things they sometimes do. All we can do as parents is discuss matters with our kids, offer them solutions for handling certain situations, and hope to god that when they actually find themselves in a situation that requires thought, they use the good judgment and examples we provide them.

Don't be so quick to blame parents; at some point our little critical thinkers have to be held accountable for their own bad manners and choices, regardless of their upbringing. Everyone has the potential to be a good apple- it's entirely up to them whether they choose to be.

Answer 2

I'm 30 so I'm not trying to take up for my peers... but I think that maybe kids seem more disrespectful because they have been raised in a world where respect is to be earned. Back in my mom's and grandma's day respect was handed out for no reason really. Older people, just because of their age, is one example. There are lots of rotten teenagers and older folks that don't desearve anyone bowing down to them. Kids today are raised in a society where everyone is equal - themselves included. I'm not saying that it's the best, but it does have some merit.

Answer 3

It's not you.

It is kind of the adult's fault. Kids look up to adults. And kids look up to other kids. Or when kids become disrespectful, the adults do not bother and do not realize that they have the power to put a stop to it.

It's a whole cycle of life.

Answer 4

It's not just you. I refer to them as the ASBO generation. My brothers have no respect at all for my parents. It disgusts me. There's just five years difference between them and me. Even my sister who is two year younger than me, has a different outlook, though not quite as dramatic as my brothers'. It shows the decline. I truly believe my year was the last good year in terms of values. I don't know where it all went wrong, but the phenomenon seems universal. The youths just have no respect for people or the law. It's hard to believe my brothers and I have been raised by the same parents in the same situation, just five years apart. We're worlds apart.

Answer 5

economically it takes both parents sometimes working two jobs to raise the kids and unfortunately they may not be getting the attention they need when it comes to manners. Especially when not being raised by a caring family member when parent aren't working. Not to mention kids can holler abuse when they get their hand slapped so what is a parent to do. I don't believe in abuse but I believe in punishment for bad behavior so yes to your answer it is getting worse all the time. :-(

Answer 6

Your right and it all has to do with what they watch on t.v. and the government giving them more rights then the parents. A good slap worked in grandma's days. I am sure it would work now (when it is deserved).

Answer 7

I agree 100%

Answer 8

your so right. parents work more and children are alone more these days. and family values are not taken seriously anymore. plus you have those people that are just wackos and are ignroant that cant raise a child, maybe because they were raised the same way. sad isnt it?

Answer 9

nah its da water. some people lose respect due to freedom governin' their lives. if my parents hit me its child abuse so i don't have to answer to them. its da society and the law don't blame the kids they are just taking advantage of the situation and dumbass in charge

Answer 10

I agree. Blame it on poor parenting, not the kids.