my husband always treated me wrong?

Question

we lived in different states because he was trying to get his situation together! he called me like 3 times a month and during those times the phone would abruptly go dead (he said he had run out of mins).... last year his i had an emergency and he sent me money to come to him and he thought i would be staying, but i couldn't cuz his mom was a witch to me and so forth.... he wanted me to basically stay with his mom til he found us a place in another state! but while he was at his mother's he would be rude to me, would hardly talk to me or sleep in the same bed... his mother tried to turn him against me and he knew it, too! so a few mnths back i decided to cut him loose... changed my number and all. he now sends me emails saying he loves me and is sorry for everything... i used to beg him for his contact details and now he's begging me to call? what do you guys think? ps: i'm considering a divorce

Answer 1

This marriage was built on a shaky foundation so it was bound to come tumbling down. Whatever his situation was, it should have been together before you said "I do." Three times a month of contact for a husband and wife is bullsh**. You should not be subjected to verbal, physical, emotional, sexual, financial or any other type of abuse from him and you shouldn't have to deal with his mother at all if she is being a witch. That is his mother, not yours. She should treat you with respect if she wants to receive it from you. Congratulations to you for dropping the dead weight. Nothing was mentioned about anything positive that your husband brought into your life and I doubt that he brought anything of a positive nature. Sure, he's sending you e-mails and professing his love now. He took you for granted and thought that he could give you his a** to kiss and you would pucker up without a second thought. Don't backtrack. There's a reason why the two of you are apart now. Don't let him put a romantic spin on what was really a sad and lonely time in your life. You gave him plenty of opportunities to step up and be a real husband and he neglected you. I would definitely continue to consider divorce very seriously. Do some deep thinking and follow your intuition. You have a sense of judgement. Trust yourself and be honest with yourself. If you think that by staying in this marriage, yours and his lives will be enriched with good fortune and happiness, stay. If not, move on.

Answer 2

Hun you never had a marriage as far as I'm concerned a marriage is being together not dating causally and that is what he was doing .He needs to get with the program and seek mental health REALLY someone like him makes me think of a person who would hack someone up and put in a shallow grave and collect the insurance money if i were you id check to see if he's wanted for anything never know he could be having his other wife at the place of unknown origin all the while you were at him mom's house then when he knocks off the other wife he moves on to you and moves to a new place out of state! Please Divorce this WACKO you would be better off by yourself . Take care steffy

Answer 3

Seems you've already made up your mind. The idea of divorce is probably a wise one. If you two can't live in the same house in the same state, and not with any body's mother, then you two aren't fit to continue this relationship (I can't even rightly call this a marriage). If you aren't willing to call or get in contact and have already cut yourself off from him, why are you asking us to condone your choice to divorce this man? You've already made up your mind, you just want us lame azzed people who don't even know you to back you up on a very difficult decision. You need to do what your heart tells you to. We can't make that decision.

Good luck.

Answer 4

This is how it is when the tables are turned then the opposite party comes running back. He is getting what he deserves and I think if you give him another chance then he will go back to treating you badly. If he has no respect for you (that's what it sounds like to me) then you can do better. Every women deserves a man who will respect her and love her for her. A man who will not listen to the negative things his mother has to say.

Answer 5

he sounds horrible!! well, i suggest if u still love him, one last try is possible. but you HAVE to make sure you have boundaries and stick to him: let him know what it's gonna be like, and if anything varies from there it's divorce time. he had his chance to have a wonderful marriage and treat u like a wife; now he better do what's right or you're gonna leave him. too bad, it's his fault it's like that!!! and he has to change a LOT to even make this work, which is probably unlikely! he's gonna do it again, most likely..... let him live w/ his mama and tell him to leave u alone.

Answer 6

Go back to your husband. You ar married and he is now lord of your house. You must return and be the faithful wife. He is a MAN he can treat you in whatever way he feels like, it is his right!

Answer 7

Well sounds to me that if he cant treat you the same way when your there with him and his mom,then when you left then l would just get the divorce.He has the choice of telling his mother to butt out or letting her control things. if he loves you that much, then to me he would simply say, mom l love you but stay out of it.

Answer 8

Divorce sounds like a good option

Answer 9

Honey first of all u did a very smart thing.Why dont u do a thing. play your court ask your husband u wudnt tolerate his mom coming b/n u two.this is of course if u want to get back with him.

Answer 10

dump him. tell him to treat me better or stepp. stop putting out so he can take you serious