Me and my husband were on line looking at sex toys, he said lets try this sex swing it's fun, comes to find out he did this with his ex-wife while they were married and another girl. I wasn't mad, cuz I did ask him how did he know and he told me. But now it totally ruined it for me cuz now I don't see how it will be fun for him since he did those freaky things with others. What do you guys think?
2006-08-03 11:41:07 · 22 answers · asked by Kelly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You should buy female and male blow-ups and go to it.
2006-08-03 11:49:27 · answer #1 · answered by wmp55 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are letting a little bit of insecurity ruin a good time for you. The fact that he did this with his ex should only tell you where he got the idea. He isnt asking you to do it so he can think about them while you two are going at it on the swing. You probably have that small suspicion, which is why you are uncomfortable over it. Look at it like, you are the first to do doggy style sex with him. He isnt thinking of anyone else while you two are doing doggy. The swing is jusy a more intricate version of position changes.
He has been totally honest with you, so he obviously loves you and has nothing to hide. Look on the bright side, he already knows how the thing works, so stop worrying about it and go enjoy yourselves.
2006-08-03 12:58:44 · answer #2 · answered by n2bateyou2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is just wanting you to try something that he really thinks you will enjoy. Unfortunately for him he put his foot in his mouth when he admitted to using it with previous partners. That was a big no-no because now you don't feel like it's an original idea. That doesn't mean it can't still be fun. Sounds like he enjoyed it right? I would give it a try and attempt to ignore the fact that he put his foot in his mouth as many men do. I think he meant well....at least he is trying to spice things up and that's cool!
2006-08-03 13:07:05 · answer #3 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see two sides to it. On the one hand it shouldn't bother you because you did know about the other women. On the other though, it would be extremely difficult to enjoy yourself in that situation knowing the past. So, if I were in your shoes I would probably explain how I feel and then pick out another toy.
2006-08-03 11:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by shominyyuspa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fun for him b/c he is into it. If a person is into something they don't 'get over it' just because they do it. Give it a try. Give him new memories that blow those old ones out of his mind. He likes freaky, you should at least try it.
2006-08-03 11:45:52 · answer #5 · answered by reddragonsong 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be fun for him because he is doing it with you. Isn't that what counts.. i mean he could go and find his ex's and do it with them.. But he wants to do it with you.. That's why the call it the "past". Let it lie and enjoy.. Take care and good luck..
2006-08-03 11:51:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree, me and my boyfriend sort of have the same problem, i always hear where hes had sex with his exes, and it ruins it for me to want to have sex in the same place. It just feels odd cause you know hes done it before, you dont want to be compared. Thats my opinion.
2006-08-03 11:46:03 · answer #7 · answered by Skye G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well l think you just answered your question, his x-wife, if he did it with her and now there divorced whats that tell ya.plus, to me if a man truly loves his wife, why would he ask her to sleep with another man.same goes for the woman.
2006-08-03 12:09:01 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya kinda takes the fun out of it dont it.. so tell him u want to do something he hasnt done yet with anyone.. i mean since u r talkin bout it then find out what he hasnt done n do that. dont give up there has to be something out there for u 2
2006-08-03 11:45:31 · answer #9 · answered by devil_queen_biatch14 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's open about the subject and would like to involve you in his fantasies. if you are into or want to try it be happy to have a partner who like it.
if he has done it before and it has not led to the problems or whatever caused him to no longer be with his X's then go for it enjoy yourself.
2006-08-03 11:46:51 · answer #10 · answered by vexed and glorious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be fun for you, but I don't know about him. It must be fun for him though, because he did it with two others. Go ahead sweetheart and enjoy.
2006-08-03 11:47:37 · answer #11 · answered by sandman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋